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(@freda)
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Sorry to hear you are having a bad day mate! Im guessing its related to seeing that old friend...

You are a good person, a strong person, and a better day is just round the corner.

Hang in there,

f x

 
Posted : 13th June 2010 8:18 pm
(@Anonymous)
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Thanks for your posts!

Weekend over boys fast asleep and i never gambled!

Boys been round friends house all day, picked them up early evening!

Sat in my kitchen and spent an hour or so writing down why i should not gamble, for me have a rough day and brain clicks into gamling mode. Its nearly a year since my one and only slip and i was not gonna let a bad day spoil that!

I sound such a ******, but a gamble free one!

Roll on monday wanna go work, realised today i dont like my own company much and when my boys aint with me im lost!!

Lost a very good friend saturday, and i have only myself to blame.....it hurts!!

2 posts in one day, my diary is my rollercoaster and on it i stay...

 
Posted : 13th June 2010 10:19 pm
(@freda)
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Hi Ands,

really glad you weathered that particular storm without gambling!

I can relate to work keeping you out of mischief. My last lapse was during a week off.

I have completed 2 weeks free now, and starting to regain my confidence.

Thanks for your support cheering me on!

You are doing so well, you seem to take things in your stride more now.

Take care,

f x

 
Posted : 17th June 2010 7:02 pm
(@Anonymous)
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Thanks Freda

Still gamble free, approaching the year on the forum, 13 days to go! shows commitment (spelt completely wrong)for me anyway!

Had realy bad weekend last weekend but this weekend is just me and my boys, and im looking forward to it!

So my one and only slip is still sept 09, and i am happy...on the non gambling front!

Just shows have a bad day and my brain goes, ooooh i want a gamble, what the f***. Anyway have good weekend whoever reads this, lol!

 
Posted : 17th June 2010 7:58 pm
(@Anonymous)
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Hey Ands,

Well done on approaching your year mark, 2 weeks will go quickly, you should celebrate!

Sorry last weekend was cr@P but hope you have a great weekend this week.

Cheers, Jim

 
Posted : 17th June 2010 8:14 pm
(@Anonymous)
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Hi mate, glad to see the hard work is paying off just at work and logged on, its been a while back from me hols and life is good, not perfect but hey thats life...:-)

keep up the good work, it really can be done my thoughts of gambling like yours are not completly gone, but as long as i and you don't act on a thought the ride gets easier thats for sure!

all the best to you and the boys, and as they say never give up giving up.

good on ya mate, enjoy the summer, enjoy life...:-)

green x

 
Posted : 17th June 2010 8:14 pm
(@Anonymous)
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Thanks Green/Jim for your posts..

Having nice weekend, boys at karate which starts far too early for a sunday, lol and i,ve got a whole heap of ironing and housework to do!

What a difference a week makes, last weekend i was feeling realy low, and having realy bad urges to gamble, week later feeling ok and no urges at all!

Have my little routine now which works very effectively when urges come and go. But saying that i dont realy get many urges now, just when im having bad day or feeling a little low, part of life...gambling is not!

So those gamble free days are piling up nicely, this time last year i was still gambling, what a horrible thought and what a mess i was in!

So i look forward to another gamble free week ahead, routines, routines and more routines....

take care whoever reads this, ands

 
Posted : 20th June 2010 9:21 am
Graham2
(@graham2)
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Ands. I honestly think that you are an inspiration to many on here.I always remember the frightened, broken person you were when you arrived. Look at you know. Love you brother.

 
Posted : 20th June 2010 7:56 pm
(@Anonymous)
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Thanks Graham,

Still gamble free and 6 days of being on this forum a year, my one and only slip was back last year on Sept 8th 09, a real turning point in my recovery... I sat at a machie in a very busy arcade in central london crying my eyes out, funny realy now when i think bout it, not one person paid any attention. That slip up was what i needed, i guess, cos i have not gambled since.....But that one slip hurt and i mean realy hurt, it made me physically and emotionally sick!!! The feeling of letting my sons down was unbearable, which then led to self loathing and depression........But well over 10 months gamble free behind me, and i feel good!

Just shows if i can do it, anyone can!

No excuses, no bullshitting, no stealing, money in my pocket, 2 beautiful sons, a good job which i have settled into nicely, and if i was gambling i would have NOTHING.

Gambling is a load of b*****ks, life is for living, and i cant stop eating trifes, lol......

Anyway thats me done for the night, take care whoever reads this and i wish you well in your recoveries... ands

oh and COME ON ENGLAND, looking like sunday roast with the germans, but hopefully it'll be Ghana lol!

 
Posted : 23rd June 2010 7:48 pm
S.A
 S.A
(@s-687)
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Hi ands.. great post and a really big well done on your gambling free time!

I know what its like to sit in a busy central London aracde quietly crying my eyes out as I fed the rent money into some machine. I remember eventually a little lady came up to me (she worked there) and said "would you like a cup of tea?".. I said "No thankyou, tears streaming down my face". She walked away and i continued with my self-destruct.

I find its useful to remember these times when life feels better. Its like you say "life is for living not gambling and that means eating trifles!! LOL 😉

Anyway best get back to the football.. meeting Ghana in the next round would be good... take care Ands.. S.A 🙂

 
Posted : 23rd June 2010 8:09 pm
(@freda)
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Im beaming from ear to ear. Your happiness jumps off the page and slaps the reader in the chops!

Nice one Ands, you are a star and a half.

Take care,

f x

 
Posted : 23rd June 2010 9:30 pm
(@Anonymous)
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Morning Ands,

Hope you are having a great weekend and all is good, the year on gamcare is fast approaching... it has gone pretty quick the last year, don't you think? Well done and enjoy the nice weather.

Jim

 
Posted : 26th June 2010 7:35 am
(@Anonymous)
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Morning Ands,

I remember you when you first came on here and my my what a transformation. You have done amazingly well and you are definitely a Dad your lovely boys can be proud of.

I've always followed what you are up to Ands. Some peeps on here are very spesh to me and you are in that line up.

Much love and "Come on England"...Jas xx

 
Posted : 26th June 2010 9:18 am
(@Anonymous)
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Hi Ands

Nearly a year kid excellent work.Just reading your last post sounds like you have turned your life around completely.

Them lads of yours now will be short of nothing now you have spare cash.Keep up the good work Jeff.

 
Posted : 26th June 2010 10:05 am
Ras
 Ras
(@ras)
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Hi there, wishing you a great weekend, well done on almost a whole year 🙂

Take care

W xx

 
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