well back here again not sure what to think at the min , my wife helped me out this time last year taking a loan to clear my debt , mainly to save my credit file and our future . Unfortunately out of all my debts there was 500 pounds to pay for a overdraft me being the clever gambler thought I can win enough to clear that ! I didn’t clear it and now I have a further 5000 debt to clear , the wife knows nothing about this and I’m pretty sure if she did that would be it . I’m planning now to take a loan as currently I’m able to switch money from my credit card and this is the problem as I keep doing it , a loan would cost me 90 pounds per month for 5 years . I then plan to set up direct debit and cut up all cards . I know the general rule is to tell the other half but think this is the best way . With no cards or access to credit hopefully I can repair my mind which is currently toast . I don’t feel any feelings towards anything I don’t enjoy anything any longer and all I think about is gambling . Give me any other addiction bar this ! What a mess
Hi nights
Keep strong and keep plodding along, its the right thing to do, the alternative will only get you into bigger debts.
Shaun
Hi Nights, thanks for the post on my thread, I appreciated that. Your story is indeed very similar to mine. You are probably at the point where you can’t look at yourself in the mirror and hate yourself for the mess you have created. I’ve been there and still on the road to recovery. Think about what’s important in your life and you will reach the correct conclusion. We don’t need gambling as all it brings is misery and despair to us and our families. Sign up for GAMSTOP to eliminate any online access and self exclude and put blocks in where you can. Ultimately it’s down to you to stop doing this to yourself and I wish you well, but there is a happy life out there if you want it. The road is long and uneasy but you can do it if you really want it.
Cheers guys will stick at giving this up ! Keep in touch
I read your story mate... Sorry to hear about what happened... You're doing the right thing getting back on here and seeking support. Don't do it on your own mate... Be proud if you haven't managed to tell the wife at least you're on here telling others. Get help from other sources if you are able to. It will all help.
Take back your life and your freedom. Good luck.
If theres any chance she can find out about this new loan (bank statements in the post, online banking etc) then you're probably better telling her yourself pal. I know my Mrs can deal with a relapse but it's the lying behind her back she hates most.
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