Day 3. No fobt or gambling urges today, This time i am giving up all forms of gambling. The other day i was back and forth to the counter loading credit onto the cack fobt machine. I didnt take a big hit this time but i probably needed to lose. Like other people say on here. I cant win because i cannot stop, but now i am.
You're adding up the days. Stay focused and forget about fobts. They don't exist in your new world.
Day 1 again sadly. Only lost a few quid, still not the point. it is my lack of will power that is the issue. I have had urges today too, i just cant stop thinking about fobt machines. why wont it leave my head?
No problem - to answer your question, your will power is not enough to stop gambling unless you put other control measures/barriers in place, I have mentioned these before and I suggest you think about them.
Day 2. Cheers dazz, i dont have cards at moment, big step. I do however want to gamble today, crazy isnt it, the pain it has caused me emotionally and i still want to play on the fobt machines, they are addictive, how do i stop thinking about playing them?. I wont gamble today however as have no card.
Hi No Problem.
Well done on starting again. Have you gone in to the betting shops and asked to be self-excluded? My problem wasn't with FOBT's it was with Sports betting. I'm not an expert on advising people to stop gambling as it's new to me.
But I did/still do think about other things and occupy my mind and time with these. Yesterday for instance, would have been me acting as an alien, oblivious to all that is going on around me as I keep checking result after result on my phone, if I wasn't in the betting shop. However for a change, yesterday I spent it with the family doing a BBQ. Today I'm catching up with some work and reading on here. Reading on here is far more use of your time that being int he betting shop.
As I say I'm not an expert, but always happy for a chat. Keep posting on here every day, to refresh your ind what you are trying to achieve. i.e. Stop Gambling.
All the best.
Ok so today i have gambled after a 3 day break. I no longer have my cards now so that is good and i am ready to start afresh, square one, the begining. No more.
Keep trying and keep going, get that triangle broken all round :)) you can do this if you really want to.
Stay positive and focused
Suzanne xx
Getting rid of the cards needs to be semi permanent if you can. Maybe let someone close control your money for a while if possible. Be vigilant with your pay day and be thankful you aren't in debt. Many of us have a pile of debt that'll take years to clear (I've a few years debt to pay off). Please quit now whilst you're in the enviable position of having no gambling debt.
Clare 🙂
Day 1 check. No urges today, payday too. Dont have my card either. Goos solid start.
boxingdaysmay15 wrote:
Getting rid of the cards needs to be semi permanent if you can. Maybe let someone close control your money for a while if possible. Be vigilant with your pay day and be thankful you aren't in debt. Many of us have a pile of debt that'll take years to clear (I've a few years debt to pay off). Please quit now whilst you're in the enviable position of having no gambling debt.
Clare 🙂
Thanks Clare. What was your partcular gambling issue. Mine is fobt machines. Today has been good, recently work has improved and i feel more focused now. I will have an allowance of cash per week but no card for forseeable future as i need at least 6 months of no gambling before i can even consider trusting myself with it again. These early stages are the hardest i find.
Day 3 - Check. No urges.
Hiya
well done on day three 🙂
these early days really are the hardest. Just keep that determination to quit as I know you really want to do this.
My problem gambling was slots, mainly online slots in the end. I spent hours and hundreds each week gambling and ran up thousands of pounds in debt last year.
I decided enough was enough and took out a 10k loan to pay off all my credit cards.
This is why I cannot ever afford to gamble again. Moreover I hated myself I was miserable and stressed out and selfish when gambling. I cannot ever go back !
Keep posting on your diary it will give you strength.
Clare boxingdaysmay15
Day 4 - check. No gambling today. Thanks for responding clare. Glads you are doing much better. Early days but determined.
DAY 6. Well after a blip last thursday i thought i wouldnt check in until i at least had 5 or 6 days of no gambling under my belt. I am trying not to think of gambling at all. I have made the error before of only quitting fobt machines but it doesnt work, you have to quit all forms of gambling, all of it. I dont want to be running back and forth to the cashpoint anymore chasing losses. So here i am at Day 6. Initial goal is 20 days then 50 days then 75 days then the magical 100 days.
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