Hi
How do you know if you are recovering and becoming healthier.
I do not have to escape to unhealthy habits.
I do not have to lie or live in fear.
My anger my aggresion my resentments my trying to control other people reduces.
My patience and tolerence is much healthier.
I am able to arrive earlier and more relaxed with my appointments.
I am able to laugh at my self.
I am able to forgive my self.
When asked in to the office I do not automatically think that I have done some thing wrong.
When I do things I do not do them resentfully, I do not do them reluctantly, I do not do things to late.
When I do things I am abale to say to my self that I did a good job.
I am willing to learn from my mistakes and my errors.
I no longer want to control and regulate other people.
I accept that my pace in life is not the same pace as other people.
One day in a reastaurant I found peices of paper in between my cooked chicken peices.
I called the waiter and asked if I have to pay extra for the peices of paper in my meal.
In every day life I see people being as unhealthy as I use to be.
In those people I see and understand more about other people.
How much worth do I put in to my effort in to finding a much healthier life today.
Walking in to recovery was filled with fear and confusion.
The like minded people in the recovery program have deomstrated to me how to become healthy and whole again.
The longer I am in the recovery program the more healed my hurt inner child gets.
My pains get healed adn resolved.
My fears are understood and reduced.
My unreasonable expectation of people life and situations is reduced.
My ability to become more productive with my life.
My ability to have emotional intimacy with my self and with other people.
The like minded people in the recovery program have helped me help my self.
The like minded people in the recovery program have nurtured and encouraged me to be the healthiest person I can be today.
Healing Love and peace to every one.
Dave L
AKA Dave of Beckenham
Hi
Making going to meetings was a deep healthy commitment to myself and my recovery.
I put on a facade a show and would feel very vulnerable being honest to my self and to other people.
The unhealthy addictions and obsessions just indicated how much fear I was living in.
In giving a therapy I would still hold back due the hurt inner child in me.
I did karate for 2 years then found out that I still feared aggression.
I got to understand that my fears of aggression were due to adults in my earlier life transferring their pains fears and frustrations on to me.
Healing Love and peace to every one.
Dave L
AKA Dave of Beckenham
Hi
What is success.
I use to think that by having lots of money you were successful.
Then I found out that success is achieved by our own healthy actions and our own healthy words.
Learning from my unhealthy actions and our mistakes is being success.
If we learn from our mistakes is being success .
Reducing my fears and doing more with my life is being success.
I use to work hard for my money then gave it away to strangers while I went with out was a complete waste of time and energy.
Learning from my therapies that I am no longer alone was being successful.
Learning from my therapies that I am no longer filled with fears is progress.
Learning that doing nothing with my time was not healthy for me.
I decided when I was younger to go and live on the coast and do nothing for a year.
After a year of doing nothing I knew that I did not want to do nothing with my life.
After 50 years in recovery I both want and need to have a healthy productive life fulfilling my needs, fulfilling my wants, and fulfilling my goals.
Writing down daily my lists and then crossing them out as I do each one is my path to a successful life.
Non religious people like minded people helped me help my self.
At the beginning of my recovery when people told me how long they were clean from gambling I thought they were all liars.
Now after over 32 years clean of gambling it is very likely that people will think that I am a liar.
The recovery program is very much mountain climbers working together to find the safest and healthiest way through my life.
By being tied to other people I found the healthiest way to get through my life one day at a time.
I use to think that by working my recovery would get easier and easier.
No often in my recovery I am being tested more and more each day.
Healing love and peace to every one.
Dave L
AKA Dave of Beckenham
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