Am I too focused on the clock?

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(@cerrry93)
Posts: 31
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Hi all, 

Just wondering how people feel towards/cope with consistently counting the days since you last gambled? On one hand I feel like it's very helpful for me in resisting gambling. But I also feel it makes me a bit demotivated when I am far away from where I was previously. Like many people on here I did manage to stop gambling for a while (just over 10 months) but then relapsed. I'm now at almost 3 months without gambling and whilst I should be able to be positive about that I feel like I'm very focused on the fact that it's still another 7 months to even get back to where I was previously. I'm not sure if I'm over focusing on the time aspect and should just try to forget about how many days I'm at? 

 
Posted : 5th September 2022 12:28 pm
slowlearner
(@slowlearner)
Posts: 865
 

Hi cerrry93

 

Here's the best advice anyone can give you, DON'T COUNT THE DAYS, MAKE THE DAYS COUNT.

 

Sincere Best Wishes

 

AL

 
Posted : 5th September 2022 9:42 pm
(@pbuxton1982)
Posts: 63
 

Hi

I agree with the comment above , but i do count the days as i have relapsed before and now on 150 days but i aint going back 150 days is great and i never want to do day 1 again , i get stubborn to gambling and wont go back.

 
Posted : 7th September 2022 7:55 am
(@q86r2ugj5p)
Posts: 2016
 

Hi

The gambling was a form of escape for me.

I feared in so many ways.

Once we abstain from our unhealthy habits we then exchange unhealthy habits in to healthy habits.

Before I did not vaue time money or my self. 

Once we abstain from our unhealthy habits we then start being more productive with our time.

While in action it was either beinf at work or being consumed by my unhealthy addictions and obsessions.

In my recovery I started to write down my needs my wants and my goals.

For me resisting gambling was not wanting to self abuse my self or other people.

The recovery program helps us ask our self how productive was I with my time today.

How can I improve becoming more self sufficient.

How can I reduce from my procratination.

Clean time can not be lost we have lived it that way.

Becoming a self destructive addict is sole destroying.

It is also a complete waste of time and energy.

Had I lost confidence.

Did I live in fear and anxiety.

Was I willing to give up all faith and hope in my self.

By stop gambling and astaining only then can we heal our pains reduce our fears and much healthier people.

By becoming fully dedicated to working my recovery I and my family became teh beneficeries of my efforts. 

Once we get cean time if we go back to recovery after a slip we can gain of lost ground very quickly.

It is important to not beat our self up.

It is important to not call our self cruel heartless names.

Once we learn to heal our pains we become much healthier nurturing people towards our self and other people.

Beginning of my recovery is JUST FOR TODAY I will not gamble.

Dave L

 

 
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