Do you ever blame others for your gambling?
I had a moment after speaking to someone about my gambling issues and they said ," I've wondered where the money was going" another person said "I've been worrying about for quite a while, you've been so withdrawn"...... In my head I was screaming" why didn't you say something to me", to be honest I would have made an excuse, BUT I did briefly in my head think this is on you, this is you're fault for not helping me!
I know it's mad, this is ALL on me.
Have you been through those thoughts?
I don't think I have had those kind of thoughts towards particular people, but I can see why your frustration at the situation could brings those thoughts on. We've lost so much and suffered [as have loved ones] and it is a hell that we wish we could have been rescued from, even though we logically know no one could have fixed it for us.
It is a tough journey but keep fighting through. Wish you the best!
I have been guilty in the past of blaming my wife for my gambling. If we had an argument or something I would go out and gamble and then come home in a bad mood and blame it on her. I wish I hadn't done that.
Do you ever blame others for your gambling?
Hi
Being consumed by my unhealthy addictions and obsessions was just the symptoms that I was emotionally vulnerable.
My unhealthy reactions were pains I could not heal, fears I could not reduce, my unreasonable expectations of people life and situations, my loneliness due to my fears of emotional intmacy and my feelings of boredom because I felt so inadequate insecure and inept.
I could nto articulate my feelings ad emotions or let people know how vulnerable Iwas.
I use to have unhealthy fear of emotional intimacy.
Every time I escaped to unhealthy habits I would cause myself and others more pains.
I was so filled with guilt shame and regret yet I did not know how t stop the self destructive behaviours.
Only once I went to meetings for my self, only once I handed over all finances could I put more time and effort in to my recovery program.
In order for me to heal the hurt inner child in me I needed to stop causing myself any more pains.
I did not fully understand how unhealthy I was.
Love healing and peace to everyone
Dave L
AKA Dave of Beckenham UK
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