Facing our fears and over coming going in to Panic mode

Hi

Fear of being honest started from a very early age because when I was honest I was punished for being honest.

I felt that being honest would always be painful.

Then there is the unhealthy habit of putting on a facade to person please people, that was not healthy.

I tried to make people like me and accept me, tell jokes, put on a smile when in side of me was crumbling down.

To even try and buy people friendship.

I do understand that every pain in my past that was not healed or resolved caused fears in me that I did not understand.

Because of my many fears made worse by my lying at each testing point in my life I would go int to panic mode very quickly.

By being in the recovery program the unhealthy habit of lying was reducing more and more.

Because I was in a panic I could not think clearly I could not listen to healthy advice and would make very unhealthy choices.

It is important to reduce our fears one by one.

In asking myself what is the very worst that can happen and am I willing to accept the very worst my fears reduce instantly.

My fears use to be ten out of ten most of the time before my recovery.

By me telling lies time and time again simply made things and life worse for myself.

It is important though to understand and face our very biggest fear first of all.

This healthy habit of facing our fears the biggest fear first of all means that every fear after that is easier to face.

As our fears reduce our going in to panic mode becomes far less and less.

It is not healthy living in fear it stunts us, it restricts us from having healthy productive lives and over coming our fears of emotional intimacy.

As our fears of emotional intimacy reduce we have better more open relationships with our self and with other people.

Love and peace to every one

Dave L

AKA Dave of Beckenham