Realised a few months ago my husband had a problem. He's always been a gambler but things apparently got serious after 2 wins of ВЈ15k and ВЈ5k three years ago. Can't believe I didn't notice before he spent £1500 from the joint account one night whwn I was out with friends. Anyway having difficulty getting a bank appointment to take his name off the joint account as he works away alot (that's a big reason for the gambling). I thought I'd blocked his phone but apparently not. At the moment the debt is manageable but has had a massive effect on credit score and (thankfully) he had a ccj a few years back (unrelated) so can't access additional loans. What can I do? Any apps to block? His pay is now going into jpint account and until he can't access the joint account I'm taking it out to my personal. Trying to keep calm. I've kicked him out tonight. Is family and mine know as I don't want secrets and they are supportive. I think if I saw him right now I would get arrested for assault I'm so angry because of the lies not the money. I'm ranting but very raw tonight. Any tips very welcome xx
Hello Cuphalfful, I am in the very early stages of recovery myself and have found purchasing Gamban on all devices has been my saviour. Had it not been for that I would have been back to day one. Having tried others, this is the one I have found that does not allow me to access any online gambling sites, and I have certainly tried. The best thing for me is that once downloaded it cannot be deleted for a year. Knowing I no longer have the ability to throw money to online slots has taken a huge weight off. I have also registered with Gamstop which is a further preventative measure. I am sure there will be many other tips on the friend/family section of this site which can be of use to you but also knowing there is support from others in your situation will help. Take Care.
Hi cup half full my gut would tell me to close that account completely. He will know the number. The most important thing for you is to safeguard your finances, his pay going to your account is good. There are many software blocks as Claire said Gamban, gamstop, k9. Changing phone to a brick, no internet. But realistically if he's away there are many ways to gamble. He has to be the one to instigate all these changes. He has to want to stop. GA meetings, gamcare counselling. Get help for yourself. Gamanon meetings, talk to gamcare. You have to change your reaction. I found the best way for me was to go to gamanon meetings. Learning how to cope, getting support from others who have gone through the same trauma.
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