Hi,
I just wanted to say that I am the cg in my relationship. When my partner found out we had a rocky few weeks. However, he has been a huge support and inspiration in my recovery process. My recovery all be it still in it’s infancy would not be going as well without him.
Only you know if you are willing to travel on this journey with your partner.
I too have given all financial control to my partner. I too receive an allowance for petrol etc. I save the receipts. My partner has not asked to look at them but I do verbalise what I have spent.
I go to weekly counselling that I received from Gamcare. My partner did not want to attend meetings etc - that was his choice. I told his mum about my addiction and my dad. He regularly speak to them if he feels he needs to.
I suppose what I’m getting at is everyone is different and so is every relationship. For us we seem and feel closer than ever. I’m certainly more open and I know he feels that too. We speak every night - just our thoughts etc.
I truly never want to gamble again. I became a person I didn’t recognise. Someone who I never want to be again.
Your partner does have to prove to you that he is committed to his recovery. If you want to stand by your man then do it. I’m sure he would appreciate the support. In time he will also recognise that you need support too and whether not that’s by your own meeting or counselling - that’s up to you.
wishing you both every success.
Sarah
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