hello,, i know this isn’t a big problem compared to others, and that i might just be overly-insecure. i have been with my bf for 4 years now, and ever since he entered uni about 6 months ago, he has been gambling with his friends almost every night, and it used to be from once a month to twice and now he gambles every single week without fail, in our uni accommodation. i have talked to him about it before and made it clear that i do not like him gambling. sure, he has won money, but he has also definitely lost… he’s excuse on why he constantly gambles is because he’s “earning money”, which i feel like is an excuse. he never ever wants to find a part time job during breaks as he says he is too “busy”… he’s used to be so caring towards me, but whenever he gambles now, for hours, he never texts me, not a single text for hours… and will only text me the next day. he will even go back on his words when he tells me he wouldn’t gamble this week etc etc, but he always gambles without fail for hours, and barely has time for me because the other days he’s busy wth other stuff… i have talked to him multiple times about this issue, and deep down i know that he’s turning into a guy that i do not like, a gambler basically… he’s addicted to it, and all he talks about is poker and other forms of gambling. i’m thinking to break up with him because it’s just affecting our relationship and he thinks it’s fine and claims it’s his social life… but i just do not like it and it’s affecting me and my happiness in this relationship. what do i do…? he’s never bad to me, he’s done nothing wrong, but it’s just his gambling addiction that is making me so unhappy everyday, feel so neglected, and just hate that he prioritises gambling over me now (that’s a proven story for another day… actions do speak louder than words… no matter how many times he says i’m his priority, he proves me otherwise..) in so lost, idk what to do because he didn’t hurt me in any way and it doesn’t seem like a justified reason to break up with him… help me pls 😭
Hi
follow your gut
you can break up with anyone for any reason. You don’t have to justify yourself or your actions.
seriously from experience, this gets worse. Your reasons are valid, don’t accept any excuses.
regardless of what he’s doing , you feel neglected and ignored.
find someone who’s interested in doing things not fooling themselves thinking they make money from gambling.
i know it sounds brutal but you are thinking this way already.
good luck
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