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Hi springbing a compulsive gambler will always be a compulsive gambler. The best way is to learn about addiction and be aware of what you are getting into. Sometimes telling a gambler to stop just makes them more secretive. Ultimatums don't work. It's an emotional illness and progressive. You can find help, support and information at a gamanon meeting. A compulsive gambler who wants to stop will be willing to do whatever it takes to get better. He should attend GA regularly, be open about finances, (some hand over finances completely,) put online blocks in place, self exclude, sign up to gamstop. Don't have any joint accounts. Make sure he cannot access your money. Don't walk into this without educating yourself and taking steps to be secure financially.

Hi,
Unfortunately I dont come but much advice but i can symphathise with you as I am currently in a similar situation.
I have been with my boyfriend for 6 years, and found out he was a compulsive gambler about 2/3 years ago.
I knew he liked to place a few bets on weekend sports but i suppose It really started when he lost a job and in his boredom turned to betting. I didnt realise until a few months later when he confessed to racking up around £10,000 in debts. I was dissapointed then but hopeful we would get through it, and he convinced me that it wouldnt happen again.
Shortly after that he manged to get himself a job and i tried to organise his finances to help him pay his debts (i should say thay i have never given him my own money, nor has he even stolen from me). Anyway, he didnt keep that job for long after refusing to turn up so that he could stay at home to continue his gambling habit. I was distraught when i learned that he hadnt been going and that he was gambling again, but again believed that this was his turning point (in hindsight, silly me!).
Time passed and i still felt uneasy about trusting him even though i was in control of his finances and he had an allowance for spending. I confronted him about 2 months ago to say that i felt like i couldnt trust him, but he told me it was all in my head and made me feel like i was the reason for this issue in our relationship.
A few weeks later i checked his accounts and found that he was still betting in the hundreds and that was where all of his spending money was going. I confronted him and he now tells me that he hasnt placed a bet for a month, he wants me not betting etc.
I just dont trust him anymore though. I think theres only so many times that someone can hurt you before you give up. Part of me would love to believe him and move on, but the other part of me cant forgive and the idea of a future with him scares me.
I have found talking on here and to my friends useful, and you might too. If youre anything like me, it took a long time to talk because it feels like betraying your partner.
I think its the lies and the betrayal that hurts the most, and its hard to work out if you can get over that. Im still trying to work that out myself.
I know there wasnt much advice there, but sometimes its helpful to know that you're not alone. The last thing i have to say is that you should spend time thinking about what will make you happy and what sort of future you want to have.