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 l_s_w
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Hi,

I've been married to a compulsive gambler for over 15 years. And over the years we've had good times and bad times. He has stopped (or at least been at a point where the debts were not spiraling) for periods of time, but he has also had times where he has been gambling.

He has attended GA on and off for years, been for counselling, and is currently seeing someone. 

I have full control of all our finances, he has a credit card which I monitor on my phone and has a gambling stop on it. However, today he admitted he has been gambling again. A customer gave him cash to pay his invoice, but my husband gambled it instead of giving it in to his company. My husband now owes his company over £7K.

I believe he hates what he does, but i'm not sure he will ever stop. Is there any hope for a happy future? How do I know when it's time to walk away?

I'd really appreciate any advice

Thank you

 
Posted : 13th October 2023 2:07 pm
 Blackjackcat
(@287hzyl0pq)
Posts: 73
 

We get a lot of these posts from partners and in all honesty the reality is all a gambler cares about is money and  winning 

Until these 2 core fundamentals change within the gamblers personality / character they will never change 

its a lifestyle which completely consumes most and breaks them both financially and mentally 

As tough as it is you have to seperate yourself from the chaos because otherwise you might swell be gambling too 

 

 

 
Posted : 14th October 2023 10:14 am
 gadaveuk
(@q86r2ugj5p)
Posts: 2016
 

Hi

My addictions and obsessions were a form of self abuse.

I no longer want to be an unhealthy person.

Dave L

AKA dave of Beckenham

 

 

 
Posted : 15th October 2023 6:41 am
 right123
(@69nm8ep1dr)
Posts: 11
 

Hi, I’m really sorry to hear what your going though and I hope you was able to find clarity in the next steps. 

I'm reaching out as I find myself in a similar situation. I found I’ve invested so much time in this person but can’t help but feel I may be making a mistake if I invest any more time with them. I am seeking advice and was hoping to see what next steps you decided to take

 
Posted : 7th May 2024 12:48 pm
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