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totally new to these groups and gambling help.
my husband of 12 years had a chronic gambling addictionÂ
he used to make alot money matched betting - now he doesn’tÂ
he is learning to trade on horse racing but isn’t doing wellÂ
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he has autism Adha and probably moreÂ
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he bets every day 7 days a week 52 weeks a year -Â
he’s also had drink drugs and sleeping around issues drug and sleeping around before we meetÂ
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August he came to me at work in my shop and said he’s signing everything over to me as he’s not going to be around anymore talked about killing himself but I got  him some help via GP but he then didn’t want to ho to help sources -  went back to betting lost ÂŁ10,000 this timeÂ
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Today he finished betting was seemingly happy gave me a kiss as he was going for a walk as he always does
20 minutes later he was ringing me in floods of tears saying he’s rang to say good bye…. I won’t see him again
I was confused I’ve flu and a chest infection 10 days so wasn’t comprehending his words - I then realised gambling
he said he was going to end it all and can’t do this anymore
but I managed to get  him to not do anything  but he was still saying he was going to our nearest cliff to end it all…. distraught I rang the police my daughter got in her car and looked for him he refused to get in twice
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in the end he came back police called round chatted to him and then chatted to me
he’s now saying it was a cry for help but he still betting -
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my son in law killed himself
I’ve  fibromyalgia anxiety and loads stress already
he’s lost about £15,000 in 8 months about £100,000 since I’ve known him
we own a house outright 1/2 each and now I’m at a loss what to do
stay- go - support him - leave him
Moneys nearly all gone and I’m not earning much
I’m terrified he’ll kill himself or lose everything
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I want to sell the house buy a small property each and not live together he won’t
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any help is appreciated  Â
Hello willow50
Welcome to our forum and thank you for sharing this.
It sounds like you and your family have been through so much with your husband’s gambling alongside the loss of your son in law and difficulties with your mental and physical health. I can hear you have a lot playing on your mind and have some big decisions to make.
There is support available for you and this is a safe space to share how you’re feeling. Here at GamCare, we offer one to one support for family and friends and you can find out more about this by contacting our Helpline on 0808 8020 133 or through our live chat. We can offer you a chance to talk openly about how your husband’s gambling is impacting on you and explore other ways to help yourself and him. If you do get in touch, we can also refer you on to our Money Guidance Service to find out more about where to go for financial advice.
The recent events you’ve described with your husband sound deeply distressing and I can hear how terrified you are about whether he will end his life. You’ve mentioned that your husband hasn’t been able to accept the support he was offered via his GP but there is some information on Samaritans’ webpage that might help: https://www.samaritans.org/how-we-can-help/if-youre-worried-about-someone-else/ . You can also call them to talk about your husband on 116 123.
It takes a lot of courage to seek support and I hope you can continue sharing your story.
All the best
Claire
Forum Admin
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