I don't know where to start....

Are there couples that make it work? It's hard and I'm scared.

There are partners on here that are making it work. Must take a hell of an effort though. On both sides. Not sure I'm up to it.

Not sure I am either, my ex left me in debt (not through gambling) and I've done really well getting back on my feet after nearlly losing my home. There has to be total honesty and I don't think that's possible for him, he's cagey about a lot of things.

Hi Half-life,

I am in too deep, I love him.

Everything is in my name. He talks about us getting a place together but I won't do it. I can't be left in rent arrears etc....again.

I wish we hadn't booked this holiday though.

You sound like you need the holiday! Are you paying for all of it? Will he not contribute with spending money when you're away?

I never know if its my place to comment in this section or not but i thought you, as half life has said need to know the reality of the situation is living with a cg in action.
You will need to move house often because your rent/mortgage will be spent on gambling
You will be frightened to answer the phone or door incase it is baliffs
You will need to hide your purse/cards because he will steal them
If you have children be prepared to bring them up alone because he would rather gamble than be with them
You will also need to hide passport etc because he will use your identity to fraudulantly aquire money to gamble with
Be prepared to make prison visits because many cgs end up there

Im hoping your partners havnt taken you to these places yet, but they will if they continue to gamble.

Protect yourself. Offer your love & support but on your terms not theres.
I wish you the best of luck.
There is good information available to you out there. Contact families anonymous or try to locate a meeting rither with them or gam anon

Dan

He said he will help but I can see myself paying for all of it, it's all inclusive and I've paid £500 so far. We have a couple of trips planned before that, (next week and next month) and he's meant to be paying for those.

Does he think I'm stupid? Does he take me for a mug? I hate the way he acts normal but has this massive secret.

Hi Dan,

I pay all the bills, he pays me board money, he doesn't offically live here because I don't want any of my assets taken by baliffs, I'm not as stupid as he thinks I am lol

But that is exactly what they do. I feel so utterly stupid for swallowing his lies. He made excuses for everything and I fell for it all. So now I can't trust a word he says- about anything. I was taken for a mug for years- probably still am.

Do we just let them get on with it then? We are meant to be supportive and understanding so is it all about them and never about us?

I know what you mean. Feels like that doesn't it? I don't know the answer but I do know I'm extremely unhappy and I can't see that changing any time soon.

Why didn't he tell me he was a CG before I got in too deep? I could have walked away then without a lot of pain. Now it's really going to hurt when it happens. Why do they lie and deceive? Why do they take other people with them on their road to ruin?

Why do I have so many questions and no answers?

Gambling games (not real money) is still feeding their addiction isn't it? It's still the same thing?

Its not technically gambling but a terrible idea for an addict. As you say its still feeding the addiction