I really don't know what to do

Gamblers are fantasic at lying to their family and friends. Don't feel stupid for not knowing that any of this was going on. He didn't want you to know and the only thing he had sucess in was learning how to lie to the people who loves him and push aside feelings of guilt.

My boyfriend is a gambler. The betrayal is horrendus. You start questioning everything. Am I good enough? Could I have stopped this? Why didn't I know? How can I stop this? Will this happen again? Should I leave?

Be angry. Hell, you deserve to be.

But don't lose controll. I found that shouting and screaming just leads to my partner being more secretive.

Gambling really is an addiction like that of drink and drugs. It changes you. When they are in that addiction they are blinded purly by that need. Nothing else is on their mind. Just the need for the thrill.

I've tried to get my partner on here and to get help. He always says he wants to stop and he knows he has a problem, but always says "just getting the last bit of it out of me, then i'll be ok" nonsence. I've also suggested adrenaline activitys to get thrills elsewhere, and hobbies to just keep his mine occupied...sometimes it works, sometimes it doesn't.

I've just read your update. I'm sorry to hear that. I hope he realises the true extent of what he has done and gets some serious and immeditate help.

I hope you are ok and wish you the best.

Even now he still can't tell the truth!!!

He left on sunday afternoon, telling me he was going to stay with a friend from work, whilst looking for a room to stay.

He left with a rucksack and told me he would collect his stuff which was packed on monday.

On monday he said he couldnt collect it.

On tuesday he said he couldnt collect it.

I then found out he was in a bed and breakfast!

Messaged him today and he still hasnt found anywhere.

He wont reach out to his family, he wont ask people for help. He said he isnt ready

Hi time will tell. He's probably still gambling, can't admit to it and won't tell his family you've asked him to leave. He doesn't know what to do. You must be trying to get your head straight too. Have you called the helpline? You need support too x

Arghhh its been 2 weeks since my husband left and i feel lilke i cant move on because he isnt sorting anything.

I am still getting numerous letters and calls to my address daily from creditors. He is just staying with a work friend so i have no forwarding address to give.

All his stuff is packed and still under my stairs which he promises to collect until i get a message always cancelling.

I just get messages saying i will sort it.

I made the choice to end this and move on which i cant do until he releases me of these worries.

Hi time will tell I think you have a couple of options. You set time and date, tell him no show and the lot goes to his parents. Or seek legal advice. You are in charge, you decide when, he's still deciding and toying with your emotions. Good luck x