My CG husband has been living out of the house for a few weeks. He is attending meetings, doing very well and seeing the kids regularly. But I def do not feel ready for him to move back in and our relaionship to start back again. I want to see real progress on his part and deal with my own anger and resentment over it all before I decide. However, my Mum has been questioning me in a very accusatory tone about why he isn't coming for Sunday dinner! He didn't the first few sundays and then last week she insisted because it was Easter, so I agreed. But today she has been having a go at me for him not coming! She said she wants to have a 'family Sunday dinner.' I said that right now we are not a family. She said but he is still the children's Dad. Which I agreed with and explained that that is why he is still seeing them a lot and taking them out and I have no problem with that etc. When I broke the news to her, I said all this, I said I didn't want judgement, I wanted understanding and that any decisions I make are in the best interests for my kids. But why oh why is she perisiting in this Sunday family dinner thing!? I feel like not going but for having one night a week off having to cook and getting a break!
I feel your pain. My husband hasn't moved out and we have continued to live together despite choosing to separate. I am now looking for a house to move out to as this is just so hard. I believe you've done the right thing and are sticking to your guns. My husband has also started attending sessions which is a brilliant first step. I think people lose sight of the impact living with a CG has on immediate family members. Just keep on doing what you're doing x
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