Been with partner over 6 years.. 2 yrs ago he went into Rehab .. Once home things hard as everythink had to still be about him.Not as a gambler (Great ) but now his recovery.. Time went on seemed to be doing ok. He had a couple of slips but was ok . Then last october 2018 he stole from me another slip. He told me within the hour . For me it took me straight back to how it was the lies stealing and cant move on from it ... Gambling doesnt just destroy the Gambler it destroys them around them... My partner thinks i should move on its the past,He has weekly and monthly support.But weirdly as im on here i dont want gambling to rule my life like it has and constantly being on these forums counciling etc.But he feels i need help.He is 2 years ahead of me with help support . I feel his 10yr old daughter needs a little help also ( she has seen heard alot of over the yrs ) . I'm struggling and just not sure what to do ...You can say making excuses i've been to Aqurious Not local to me driving distance, not always convient the times given with work ,child care.etc.. GA were negative once spoke about rehab .Paid for counciling but couldnt afford after a period of time.. Just wondering is anyone else in my boat ? be nice to here from you
Hi as you say the thing about a compulsive gambler is they are not alone in the affects of the gambling. Yes you should seek free help. Gamcare offer counselling to partners. You could also find a gamanon meeting or if too far, coda (codependent) meetings. It's really helpful and supportive to be around others who understand. You will learn how to look after yourself, not focus on the past, stop repeating the same behaviour. If he's saying GA was negative it's an excuse. Going into rehab and returning to a normal healthy life without support is unrealistic. In my opinion GA is a must. He should also have online blocks such as gamstop. Stealing from you is very upsetting and will cause doubts.Safeguard your finances so that this cannot happen again. Get some help and then you can see what you really want from this situation and how you can change things.
It's long slog, are you ready for a another decade+ of bad surprises, and constant letdowns, and not being able to trust your partner?
Just a reality check, because it is possible to get over addiction, it is just very hard is all.
Goodluck
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