I have been questioning finances for months now since we have moved in together, he never asks me to pay for anything because he knows I still have my mortgage (in process of selling) and he makes more then me. So I didn’t care at first but lately been continuously wanting to talk about our future and finances and kept getting pushed off. I knew something has been off he’s been isolating himself from everyone including me, snippy, and just not himself. He had finally spoke to his mom the other day which made me happy he was able to speak to someone and I know she would also push him to talk to me. He didn’t. Instead I got served papers for him regarding 119k of online gambling debt. He broke down and was relieved I finally knew, he states he was “waiting until it was taken care of” to tell me. Which I obviously don’t believe bc how can I believe anything right now. I feel so isolated and I can talk to his mom but she’s more worried for him because he was open to both of us how suicidal he got from being so ashamed he did this. I knew he gambled online but he makes a well living , didn’t care until we were married/kids, obviously I was naive to ever think it was this bad. I am trying so hard to be supportive because he is struggling and has to tell his father (has $$) and that’s apparently harder then it would’ve been telling me. idk what to do or think anymore. I have my own money and I am not dumb, he isn’t getting a dime to pay off things but how do I move forward with him or is this just a lost cause. I feel I just want to ask him a million questions of what he’s always doing always because of my betrayed trust which is so unhealthy for me.
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