I'm new on here, read through a few topics and thought my situation was kind of similar. Any advice would be greatful!
So I've known my boyfriend for some time now but we've only been going out just over five months. We're both still quite young and living with parents but I love him to pieces. Only I don't love his gambling addiction, I despise it. Before we started going out I knew he gambled but I never knew to what extent. In the space of about 3 months he's managed to get over 2500 out of me!!! I've had to get loans out to be able to fund this but I would just get lied to. 'I need some money to get to work' 'I want to redecorate my room' 'oh lend me 50 and I'll give it back to you tomorrow' I've heard everything and I just don't know what to do. We don't have bills to pay but he's on about moving out by the end of the year and he wants me to go with him. He was meant to give me &1000 by today as I'm meant to be buying a car this month. Worse bit about it is my parents think I have that money when I have absolutely nothing! They have no clue. I've been dealing with paying back loans with my wages each month and I'm always hearing 'you'll deff have the money don't worry' and I don't see anything and I still haven't! He knows he needs help but he's doing absolutely nothing and he's saying he will change because he loves me so much but he's proving nothing. What shall I do 🙁 I feel so stupid as I'm just feeding his habit but he promised me before he had stopped, deleting his online betting and everything. Only for me to find out he's opened another one! Which he doesn't know I know about as I've had a look and seen where the money has been going. He's got potential in life and it hurts because he's just throwing it all away for nothing. He says he wants everything with me but he's going the wrong way about it. Can I really live my life with someone who non stop lies to me? The person he supposedly 'loves'?
He is in denial, he won't change his mindset Until something big happens, like he gets monstriously in debt, or your relationship ends.
Even then, a gambling habit can be really difficult to fight, it will be like any other addiction, slipups all along the way, its a difficult journey and I really hope you make the decision that is right for you.
I think if you are looking for a stable future, a problem gambler is not going to give you that, that is my opinion but I am sure there are many reformed addicts, but they are in the minority.
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