Hi all,
So fed up, partner has been gambling for over 4 years now (that i’ve known about). Had bans etc put on account but has always seemed to find a way round it all. Our daughter’s birthday this week and had plans to do things but had to come clean he’s gambled the rest of his wage away. I can’t keep living like this, it’s not fair on our young children especially.
He’s said before he promises he won’t ever do it again etc but obviously keeps doing it. Won’t tell his family he’s still doing it as he doesn’t want to worry them but how is it fair for it to all be on my shoulders?!Â
Said for so long he needs to get help but never follows through with it or proving he will do it for our young family.  I feel mentally drained.  It’s not just the never having any money, it’s the mood swings, never really showing an interest in wanting to do anything as a family.Â
He says i never show him affection back anymore but i just get stressed from it all. I feel like he is guilt tripping me? Does anyone still feel in love with their gambling partners?Â
Do they ever actually recover?Â
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Hi I am a gambling addict with 8 years of recovery under my belt and 2 years gamble free thus far.
my partner who I met via GA has stuck by me through thick and thin and we now have a daughter together a small flat and I am now supporting her financially for the foreseeable future while she looks after are daughter.Â
firstly having a gambling addiction is probably the most selfish thing you could have and all you can think about is gambling and you are willing to throw everything away just for the next bet. This can happen if you are single married or have a young family. It’s truly hellish for the gambling addict as well as family.Â
secondly as a addict you have to come to terms that you have a problem and admitting it is the first step and seeking help for some sort of recovery be it gamcare or GA physical meetings is a good start. Just remember this is a life long addiction so after couple weeks or 10 don’t listen too ohh I am cured now I don’t need support etc etc. That’s a load of bs.Â
thirdly blocks have to be put in place to prevent relapses, I also put phycological barriers in place that worked for myself but Gambian and banking apps that prevent gambling are best. A raffle is gambling, a lottery ticket is gambling. Trading is gambling. Literally a lot of things are gambling and you have to watch out for deviations on the road to recovery. I hit a load of them myself.
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anyways if he says he will never do it again he needs to make a change and not guilt trip you. Guilt tripping is just a way of deflecting the real problem which is his time gambling etc.
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he needs a wake up call and better sooner than later for all your sakes.Â
Just @ me or some forum admin may be able to give some resources to help if you haven’t already found any on the websiteÂ
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dave101
Hi  Mummyof2
Thank you for posting on our forum. The situation you described has been going on a long time and we understand it can be exasperating and wear you down. If you have not tried it yet, our helpline is open 24/7 where you can chat to an adviser 1:1 and we can go through support options for you. There is also https://gamanon.org.uk/ for more peer support.
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