40 days GF is nearing its completion. Is it an achievement? After so many failed attempts in the past.
It is only when I have stopped do I feel the pain of wasting the last 9 years of my life to this addiction & blowing 250k. The questions in my head saying:
1.What kind of person would I be today if this didn’t ruin the last 9 years of my life.
2. Could I have been a better parent to my Daughter & taken her places any normal Dad would have done when she was growing up, but couldn’t because of spending on gambling.
Knowing I would prefer to place and lose £1000 bet than taking my Daughter out for the day and only spend £100. It’s disgusting that this addiction does this.
3. My Mortgage would have been paid off, instead I have massive debts on going for the next 3 years.
4. If only I had stopped when I tried being GF 4 years ago, I would have been debt free by now.
5. The constant distant feeling inside me, trying to force a smile around family and friends as though nothing is wrong.
It’s horrible trying to fight this addiction but I have to keep battling and hoping there is light at the end of the tunnel.
Well done King and keep fighting this battle indeed💪💪. Unfortunately, going over old ground for us lot on here is just not helpful or more importantly, very motivating. Please try your best to replace those “unhelpful” thoughts with “helpful thoughts”. For example, “I am no longer gambling, I am no longer wasting my money, I can now treat my daughter now that I am not gambling” and so on. If I kept reminding myself of what I have lost over the years/debt I have got myself in, (27k of my own hard earned money on just one of my gambling bouts, spent in a week)!! this would really not do my mental health any good at all.
Think about today only and today, you are doing great!👏👏👏👏. The good times will come around again no matter how small they may seem at the time. Remember this.
Take care and keep fighting the fight💪💪💪.
Pink Lady🩷🍎.
Welldone mate 40 days is a great achievement, i am currently day 356 and still feel the same even thought i am debt free, i have missed so many opportunities in life i could have used the money to go on hoilday it going to take time but i do know one thing gambling will only make it worse so i need to remind myself of the positives and keep moving forward
Is 40 days an achievement? In my opinion, 1 day is an achievement. 40 days is 40 achievements. Huge congratulations on getting this far. You’ve shown yourself you can do this. You’re also dwelling on the past. This can be useful if it reminds you why you are in this situation, but it can be harmful if your brains starts thinking about money. That moneys gone. The only money you should focus on now is in the future. This is now all your money. To do with as you please. Yes you may have to pay off debts, but one day that will be done. You will enjoy the life you are imagining now.
Gambling has caused a blip in your life, one that will impact you financially for a while. That’s what you should remember. A few moments of hoping for a win has robbed you of those years. Take them back, look forward and take the positives from your 40 achievements.
Well done again, and stay strong 💪
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