I feel like I’ve let the family down. We have 2 small children and I’ve lost all our savings I had access to and taken out credit cards to fuel my habit. I have taken steps I can to get the help… there are triggers… and my husband is some of my triggers… how I am going to forgive myself… how can I be with my husband going forward if he doesn’t understand that he fuels this to a point… says he understand yet doesnt want to change and thinks it’s normal ‘husband and wife’ arguments… how can he support me like he says he wants to but doesn’t talk to anyone… how am I going to get my head straight…Â
this a horrible situation to be in a vicious circle…. I guess it’s going to be a slow process to understand what’s going on…Â
Hello JJ,
Well done for joining the forum, and thank you for sharing some of your story here.
Your post is titled "4th time this has happened", so it sounds like your gambling has been a recurring issue for you, and that it has cost you savings and caused you debt, and you feel regret about that. You are trying to figure it all out, how to understand your triggers, how to cultivate self-forgiveness, and where your relationship goes from here. It is a lot to sort out, but it is good that you recognise that it is a process, and you mention that you have taken steps to get help.
You don't mention where you are in the world; if you are based in Britain then you could call us, if you like, on our freephone 0808 8020 133. We can signpost you to free debt advice services, provide you with free access to blocking software, and facilitate referrals for free support sessions. If you are based in another country, then please consider the benefit of using local support for your recovery, to help you make progress in improving your situation.
I hope that reading the stories of our forum members helps you to see that you are not alone, and that there is hope for recovery.
Take care,
Adam.
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