I really need some advice desperately, I haven't gambled at all for well over 5 months, however I received an email saying I had been given a £200 bonus... At the time I was thinking well why not? If it's free? Then before I know it that had gone in a matter of moments. Then before I was even thinking about it I was depositing my money into it, not even thinking at the time. Then I lost a lot of money, knowingly this meant I only like had a little bit left in my account and still have to pay for a full months travel to work and lunches etc.. Yet I still deposited it and lost it all.
I'm so ashamed, I've worked so hard for months to not gamble and then in a matter of minutes almost every thing I have is gone. My parents have given me so many opportunities I really don't know what to do. I have let them down, I really want to be brave and tell them what I've done but I'm too scared, I'm a coward. Please can someone provide me with any advice they can, my credit score is screwed and have no way of any further lending anywhere, I really don't know what to do. For the first time in my life I feel suicidal. But that's just an easy way out and that's not fair on anyone. I'm in absolute bits and just don't know what to do. Please help or advise what I should do.
Hi Lifelesson .Deep breaths and there has got to be a way through it.
You will have to step up the guard and I feel you will have to tell people again look Im an addict and I have let myself down and you down. You need to use this time now to take further steps. Do you have anyone you live with?
I was the same I had all my abstinence plans...dont touch that card and that money is for that.....next thing Im instantly drawing out and having a gambling session in town. I have now self excluded and am waiting for a doctors counselling letter
Its hard isnt it but the first thing you must do is block emails and get blocked from that site and all the others. Internet access is your problem as an addict so youve got to shut that down if you cant get effective blocks in place.
You need further help lifelesson. I dont know who you can talk to...your parents maybe.
Someone was saying oh its only money in the grand scheme of things but I know the damage that financial pressure causes in terms of living expenses.
I think you need a one to one call with gamcare and perhaps a visit to the doctor
Is there nothing you can pawn or borrow. Can your parents help you to finance getting to work. Can anyone at work help or will that compromise your work dignity. You have a job so wages are your guarantee
This is the pain and you must stop and reach out for more help. d**n these gambling companies for the pain they cause!
You will beat it. Let us know how you are getting on
Been in this spot so many times. Even stole my brothers money... but i did decide to tell him, and whllst he was obviously totally and understandably a tad P****d off that i had done away with his cash... his biggest message was that I mean more to him than the money ... so he suggesed proper recovery and we agreed some things he can help me with too.
I am saying very clearly if it isnt self evident that your loved ones will be supportive especially parents you can count on that. Theyll rightly give you some level of grief but if you want recovery and this is your chosen time to want to give up for yourself... It will be better with their help.
Be brave , tell them, maybe get yourself some literature, phone numbers and some ideas on how your going to go into your recovery fully, and that will help to make them see you mean business. They might need to take financial control for you, maybe you could offer it anyway.
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