Hi everyone dunno if you've seen few posts from myself a couple months ago but I have been gambling still and it's probably got worst in all honesty I've taken out more loans to fund my gambling whilst just about maintaining to cover my bills and rent. Now obviously I've got to pay the money back and I'm really struggling to pay my bills and I probably won't be able to pay them. My girlfriend doesn't no about all the debt she knows I have a gambling problem though. I'm in debt totalling about £10k and I think my life is pretty much ruined just wish I could stop for good Im so mentally weak want this illness to leave me alone I've had enough I've put people though enough I want my life back
Hi fufc321,
Welcome back to the best place in the world. It's time to now really kick on and change your life. It's time to stand up and do it for your loved ones however more importantly number one you.
To beat this the most satisfaction I have received is knowing I have beaten the smelly dirty repulsive addiction I once had and given it the finger. I feel so much hate towards this thing I struggle to say the word after reading your post.
you can achieve anything in this life. You will do this overtime and turn your life around. You are in the darkest part of the jeorney however you will overcome this and light will shine on you.
i really wish you the best of luck beating this.
Keep posting. Keep the faith.
Hi Fufc321, well done for coming back and posting. Get it out there, get it off your chest, keeping it in your head is where the gambling demons control you.
I think the key to start you off is (as hard as it is) to write off the 10k in your head. No more thoughts of 'oh just another £200 and it could easily return £11k and I'm saved'. That is what I struggled with, I always wanted to get even with the bookies, but I'm finally waving the white flag and accepting around a 10k defeat myself. It's better to bow out now then continue the war and be looking at 20k in no time.
Good luck, absorb all the great help on these forums and keep busy, don't beat yourself up, get some money advice 'stepchange' is a popular name on here see that advice a lot.
Hi Fufc, it’s a tough place to be no doubt about it. The first few days gambling free are the hardest as emotions will be all over the place and you will probably still be thinking you can win it all back. Believe me I was there only a couple of weeks ago (for the umpteenth time) but it does get easier but only if you take the necessary steps. Self exclusion is a good start and maybe look into counselling and GA?
As for your girlfriend, mate tell her everything. My debt is similar to yours and my girlfriend/fiancГ© knew I gambled but not to the extent I did or the debt I was in. Turns out that the secrets and lies hurt her more than anything. Of course you will be thinking it’s better she doesn’t find out but when you start making excuses not to go out for a night or for a meal because of lack of funds then she will know something is up. In all likelyhood she may know something is up already.
Don’t waste anymore time living that life. Money can be earned back eventually but you never get that time back.
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