Blown my wage again!

Hi Jacky,

well done for taking the step to do something about this. If online slots is your downfall then you def need to register with GAMSTOP. You need to trust someone that can take the financial aspect away from you too - when I told my wife and handed over my finances it was a weight off my mind. Start the new year - working 80 hours a weeks to feed the profits of a company that doesn’t give a S***e about you is the way you need to look at this. For every hour you work see this as a step closer to freedom - maybe save for a holiday or something. You will need to face up to the debts but any money left every month after you’ve paid them needs a positive purpose. Remember, if you are gambling to win money, you never will - it’s not how these companies survive.

be strong and put the blocks in place today...don’t put it off...

all the best

Thanks Rupidoda for your reply and support, I am trying to pick up the courage to tell my partner, I have finally got to the point that I realise trying to keep it secret is not an option, I am not paid again now for another four weeks, but I have decided to pay all bills on pay day then withdraw the balance left so I have nothing to gamble with online, thankfully other forms of gambling do not interest me. I have written small goals in my diary, and once I have got this initial hardest bit over I will talk to step change regarding my debts, well that's the plan anyway. I have been reading through the posts on here, and it makes me feel better to know I'm not the only one going through this and inspired by those who have beaten it.. I am going to take each day at a time, and try to stop beating myself up. Gamblock also seems a great option, I will look into that and definitely set up. Once again thank you for your time and support.

Hi Jacky,

It is hard getting the courage to tell your partner - I couldn’t do it straight away, but to be honest he prob knows something is up - keeping something like this to yourselves is not easy and manifests it’s self in your behaviour. He may be angry and upset at first but hopefully he will support you through it and both of you will see this is not the end of the world - we’ve all made mistakes and gambling is the one we’ve made....let’s move on, learn and be brave.

i still think about the losses and am tempted but with registering with GAMSTOP I know that I will not be able to gamble online (which is where I lost most of

my money and time).

Yes, I'm dreading it, but your right he keeps asking me why I'm skint all the time and miserable, it's definitely put a strain on our relationship. Often I haven't even gone to bed on a night just so I can stay up and gamble. That's one thing I have really noticed about this terrible addiction, it's so isolating, you cut yourself off from people you love and your normal daily living.

Hi Jacky,

I agree with Rupidoda and urge you to register with GAMSTOP. My problem was online (no interest in other forms of gambling) and it stopped my problem dead in its tracks allowing me to start to address the problems I had caused.

I wish you all the best.

Simon

Thank you Simon, glad you and Rupidoda are making good progress, will def set up GAMBLOCK. I will be coming on here daily to keep my resolve going. Thank you both so much, I felt like ending it all this morning, now I feel there's hope. I have been so depressed for so long, it's hard living a lie. I can bea t this and I will.

Thank you Simon, glad you and Rupidoda are making good progress, will def set up GAMBLOCK. I will be coming on here daily to keep my resolve going. Thank you both so much, I felt like ending it all this morning, now I feel there's hope. I have been so depressed for so long, it's hard living a lie. I can bea t this and I will.

I'm glad you're feeling better. It's good to talk on here as so many of us have been through it. I took the first steps to stop and then over time I came clean to those close to me, it was quite liberating and I was pleasantly surprised by the support I got from friends and family. GAMSTOP takes very little time to set up and once you've done it you will not be able to gamble online, this could be frustrating at first but in a short space of time that will start to ease up and you will be able to start making clearer plans to address things. You are absolutely right, you can beat this!

Hi jacky,

When you are looking to register - it’s GAMSTOP not GAMBLOCK - just in case you were having trouble finding it!

Gamstop was a game changer for me. Knowing I can't gamble online is amazing. I also went to a bank that doesn't allow betting transactions on yoru card (They get declined) This also helped. I also put a block on bookies just in case. Doing these blocks and changes empowers you and gives you a purpose. Good luck.

https://www.starlingbank.com/

Bank in question

Hi Jackie, I just wanted to stop by and tell you that you are not alone. I have been fighting online gambling on and off for a few years now and it's beginning to get dangerously out of control. Like you I have stayed up nights gambling, and like you I have blown money, last month it was the rent... which I am now struggling for again. I can't tell my partner; he already has anxiety issues and I know this would make it so much worse. BUT I know we can do this, and I am determined to be GF from now on. I too am registering with GAMSTOP, but they need photo proof of ID from me so there is a delay. I have however enabled parental control on my internet connection at home for gambling sites, which has helped a little, and I've self excluded from every site I can think of.

Stay in touch, and we can do this together xx

Hi Jacky, how are you today? I have just joined on here. I have blown all my wages this month and can’t pay my rent 🙁 I am so ashamed of myself. I have registered with GAMSTOP and it is so good knowing that I can’t get on the slots. Hopefully I can start paying back the money I owe and start a new positive chapter in my life. Did you manage to register with GameStop?

Hi Jacky, I have had a problem gambling on slots for about 2 years, it got progressively worse and in the last year I have lost around 30.000, I too like to think I’m not intelligent and have a responsible job, I also couldn’t tell my partner and still he does not know, I just can’t believe how stupid I have been and am so ashamed that I blew all this money, I hit rock bottom in November and was even contemplating sterling to feed my habit, it’s like I had blinkers in, nothing else mattered, thankfully I decided to try to stop, I did around 10 days then had a week long relapse. Dusted myself off and tried again, I’m now 32 days gf and can’t tell you how much better I feel. I know that there is a long road ahead but for the first time am beginning to see the light at the end of the tunnel, at first I came to this site several times a day to read others stories and was inspired, I now am only visiting this site every couple of days, slowly the urge to gamble is subsiding, you’ve done well to admit you have this horrible addiction, I hope to see your journey moving forward.