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Hello Shankly and welcome to the forum :))

I'm not sure if you've not had any reply's yet because the sites just been upgraded or because like myself I'm not quite sure what it is you want to do ? .

I don't mean that disrespectfully because obviously from reading your post you do have a problem and that problem is best summed up with the Compulsive gamblers mantra of " I cannot win because I cannot stop " . 

For us there is no off switch and although fortunately for you as you said " Your still in the black " that won't last forever if you continue down this path my friend . 

If you genuinely want to stop gambling and not just stop losing as I did for many years then I'd think about getting any savings or access to funds as far away as possible from those Gambling fingers of your's ? .

Perhaps by handing over either those funds or better still handing over full financial control to someone you can trust and confide in ? , not sure if you've told anyone of your dirty little secret yet but that's a must too as gambling loves secrecy and it allows you to pick up right where you left off if the urge to gamble becomes too much , if there's no access to funds and you tell your partner / mum / dad or whoever you become more accountable and not just to yourself . 

Addiction promises us so much but just brings misery but the good news is that you can do this , you can stop gambling but it's just a question of how much you want to and how proactive you become in putting all that's needed to keep you safe from another bet ? . 

You are very fortunate that you've not got into debt , just keep it that way as things can spiral out of control very quickly . 

Talk to you soon buddy and all the best for now :)) 

Alan  

Thanks for the supportive words, Alan.

I do consider myself fortunate compared to others. I've not gambled for a few weeks now and although I'm not naive to think the habit won't rear its ugly head in the future I do feel I've begun to chip away at it.

I've only ever gambled online (secret right?) and never had a desire to gamble in a bookie on the high street. I'm optimistic over time I can break this destructive habit

Shanks

Thanks Dave - best wishes to you

Shanks

Posted by: shankly77

Thanks for the supportive words, Alan.

I do consider myself fortunate compared to others. I've not gambled for a few weeks now and although I'm not naive to think the habit won't rear its ugly head in the future I do feel I've begun to chip away at it.

I've only ever gambled online (secret right?) and never had a desire to gamble in a bookie on the high street. I'm optimistic over time I can break this destructive habit

 

Shanks

Hiya Buddy :)) 

I've never gambled online , for me it was always a bookies or casino and occasionally a racetrack but I can assure you that mine was just as secret as yours :(( 

I don't think it makes any difference how , where or what we gamble on to be honest ? , whichever way I look at it the outcome will always be the same once we cross that line and become Compulsive about it ? . 

It wasn't until I actually got some gamble free time under my belt that I began to realise just how crazy my world had become , chasing money with more money that now thinking about it would have never given me the riches I dreamed of ? . 

Mate , if you can draw a line under this now while still in the black then I doff my hat to you, as it takes a lot for a Compulsive gambler to walk away with money still in their pocket and that's why I suggested handing it over and confiding in someone because sure as eggs is eggs you'll get an urge at some point where that compulsive mind of your's starts hatching a plan . 

I'm not preaching but I just wish I could have had this conversation  with my younger self ( many yrs ago ) before I became a slave to this addiction and truly hope you do finish with this and get on with living the life you want and should have :)) .

Stay well mate and you know where I am if you need a chat :)) 

Alan