Hi - so I logged in this morning after several log ins the past few weeks, but never actually wrote anything. I discovered I joined a forum 2020, and I’ve known about my husbands gambling since 2012 and in 2015 I knew he’d had a relapse - he was depressed and angry and I stayed to save our marraige.  I know he’s gambling again, despite the lies and lies - and I don’t think I can live this life with him anymore.  We have 4 amazing kids and I can’t bear the thought of tearing them apart.  The aggression, the lies, mood swings etc are too much and now he is refusing to tell me how much he owes on cards and won’t get help either from GA or counselling. He blames me for lots of things that are what I would say normal squabbles.  I’m devastated - I love him and our family BUT I am so short tempered with my kids and I hate the person I am right now trying to hold this together- I’m not to tell anyone either.  I know no-one can tell me what to do - I just need to put it out here to people experiencing similar.
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