I'm new, i can't cope, i'm done

Your emotions are VERY raw but you CAN make a start at tackling this problem without going to the extreme measure you imply. There is a lot of useful advice on this forum to do with self-exclusion, blocking software, Gamblers Anonymous, GamCare counselling, debt management plans etc. Why not start a diary? You can monitor your progress and get feedback from others. I KNOW as do many others how horrendous it can be when you start on this journey but believe me you can stop YOUR way with support, honesty, a change of mindset etc. I was gambling on nearly every race in every meeting until just under a year ago. I even (as others know) pawned my wedding ring which fortunately I got back. All of the above are just my views but believe me there is light at the end of the tunnel and if you are serious about stopping you will get a LOT of support on this forum. All the best and take care, Phil.

SamePhil & Emily82 (Em)

Thank you for your words and support. You both have just stopped me from doing something stupid right now.

I need to find the path and find a way forward. with support like yours and others i'm hoping i can find it and move forward one step at a time.

Thank you!

good luck mate , heart wrenching portrayal of modern day gambling

all da best

Hi BE, look up the number for Samaritans, or message them online if you are desperate. There is also a number on the homepage here where you can talk to someone. You need to make the money in your account inaccessible to you, so it is still there to pay the bills...can you give control of the account to your parents or wife, as they are supporting you? You cannot win by gambling because you cannot stop. There is a freephone number that enables you to self exclude from bookies in your area, and there is software that can block gambling on your phone and computers. You can do this. Headaches and anxiety are par for the course, don't be afraid, you have to ride them out. Keep talking on here. There are chat sessions tonight at 7pm and 9pm. Everyone is very supportive. Read some of the diaries...you will find others who have been in the same place as you are, but their lives are now improving. Your wife may also gain support and insight from the forum and gamcare counsellors, does she know about this site? Take care.

Hi babyeric2004

I don't know you personally but can imagine how you are feeling and what gambling has done to you and your family. Like Phil and Emily have said your not alone there are lots of people in the same situation and have the same feelings due to gambling. There are phone numbers on her and they are a great support on the other end of the phone and will help you in some way believe me. By the sounds of it you are at your rock bottom and believe me from my experiences thing do get better babyeric2004 but do take time and an awful amount of effort ! I don't know where you live but try and see if there a GA meeting near you and get along to it as all the people in them rooms are in the same boat and want the same outcome to stop gambling, I have to travel 80 miles to my GA meeting but it's worth it. Look forward to hearing positive response and future posts.

"It's good to talk and take it one day at a time"

All the Best

Darren

Thanks Spraggy2014, Rhoda and woodley3.

Its nice to see positive comments and reading positive stories on here. In just a few short hours i've realised i'm not alone and others have the same issues to overcome. Whilst i have support at home, sometimes the snide comments or remarks makes me want to reach for my phone. I'm seeing nothing but help and support on this forum. I WILL overcome this, there is light and the debts CAN be paid off.

Thanks Em, i've read abit of your story, I'm on Day 4 today. I can't believe what a struggle these last few days have been. I only took a look at GAMCare today because it came up on an internet search, i'm so glad i did already.

Be nice to keep upto date and chat with you as we are almost identical in days gamble free and age

I now have a councilling session booked for Wednesday and have booked in to see my GP with my wife next week to discuss the thoughts i have been having. I've made notes from other things i have read about blocking websites to investigate further.

I've already given up all financials to my wife. I'm happy to never touch a debit or credit card again.

Good post. There is light at the end of the tunnel. There are great people on this forum and listening and learning is all part of the journey. Keep posting and I really look forward to seeing your progress. Phil

Hi Eric

You might hear some about wins but you'll hear a whole lot less about the losses which will inevitably far outweigh them. The only way of winning long term is not to gamble at all.

If your wife has the finances how is it you are potentially able to access the bill money? Close that loophole now. If you simply can't get at the fuel for the fire there may be a kind of peace to be found in that.

Hi Lethe

I don't have access now. I did however this morning.

I've learnt so much these past few hours since joining this forum.

I felt exactly as you did when I came here 52 days ago....i haven't gambled since and it's totally due to the support I've received on these forums. Read as much as you can, some of the Diaries are heartbreaking but equally so some of them are truly inspirational... this has helped me immensely, as Rhoda already said, there are also the chatrooms, no one will judge you, we are all here for the same reason.... Lifes fecked up by gambling.

Keep posting....Take care.

M x

And those first few hours are extremely important. I feel you have had a good day?

Yes it's been a good day.

I've fought the urge all day!

I've picked up tips on things to do to stop availability of money to stop the fuel of the fire!

I've had some meaningful comments from like minded people who have experienced and are experiencing the same issues.

More importantly when I felt at my lowest and was really thinking of throwing in the towel I found this website, this forum and it made me stop.

Thank you everyone!

There is a chatroom at 9 - go along if you feel like it.....good to share and in your early days people will be super supportive,