My intro

Hi Shep, bit late to the party but I just read your post about coming clean & wanted to say good on you 🙂 I completely understand why you didn't want to give her the facts & figures (I guess it's kinda like all the gory details of an affair) but you have definately done the right thing! I hope it wasn't too painful & that she can find the strength to support you! The next few days are quite likely to be very up & down whilst she processes this information, try not to take anything personally (I know you were worried about the backlash) & work through her fears with her...She may need additional support from here, GamCare counselling services or even GamAnon so make sure she knows there is help out there!

Time to start living again - ODAAT

All,

Well as I've posted elsewhere, I did tell the wife everything last night.

I thought I would fell better this morning, but no. Probably feeling the same as my wife. We spoke for 1.5hours, I was emotional but this has been building up for a time now, the wife was strong, shocked and utterly dissapointed. She knows I've changed but blamed it all on work. I told her there's only me to blame, I love her and the three kids. They have done nothing wrong. We went through the credit cards, debts, the lies, deceipt from me. My worries on being found out, scared when I worked away she would find credit card statements etc........all been posted before by other members.

What hurt me was she thought I didn't love her anymore. I reassured her she was my rock. The deceipt my addiction had didn't make me want to be close to my wife. Anyway she agreed I needed help so on Friday I'm attending my first GA meeting. Next week I feel better arranging with Gamcare to get some councilling.

Next Monday we are going to sit down and go through the debt, cancel cards. Some people will say "too late" but we want a nice family weekend with Mother's day.

Again thanks to Half-Life, we posted a conversation last night that woke a brain cell that said the "time is now to tell" and that's what happend. Otherwise it would have been tonight or then put of until next week.

Wether or not I should start a diary page now as this is a turning point I don't know.

Thanks for reading.

Well done shep...at least she knows now...ok...so it will be difficult for a while...but once you have worked out a plan together to deal with all the issues I'm sure it will be fine...it will be more than fine....because you won't be gambling..telling lies...or living a secret life....like you I put off telling hubby...but it was great when he knew the truth....yes I feel had at all the hurt I've caused him....but counselling are helping me deal with that....and I'm confident that we will both come out of this storm a stronger couple.....hope you can manage to enjoy the weekend xx

Morning all.

It will be my first GA meeting tonight. Looking forward to it, just don't want to be the softy who cries at sad stories from others and my own! Crying is a release and will be part of my recovery.

Hopefully update in the morning.

Thanks everyone.

Hi All,

Attended my first GA meeting last night and can say I enjoyed the experience. 8-10 people all with the same addiction but all different in the ways they gambled. Looking forward to next weekend and getting to know the group better.

I spent the first hour speaking 1-1 with one of the "main men", told him my story, he shared his, really nice introduction for me.

So here's to another weekend without gambling. Trying to enjoy life as it should be.

Thanks

Hi Shep,

A few big steps you have taken over my he last few days.

So pleased you have told your partner i wish I did before I had no choice in the matter. It sounds like you have decided to tell all which is the smart option.

Glad you took the plunge and walked through them GA doors. It's not a quick fix but keep working at it and all these steps you are talking will eventually lead to an improved life for you and your family.

Have a great weekend with the family you will find you now have more awareness of what is going on around you rather than with your head buried in your phone.

KTF

Still bet free! Not even looked at any bookies prices at all, nor am I looking at live scores every morning, noon and night.

Very early days. The GA meeting on Friday spoke about the "honeymoon period" of being bet free, this made me worried a bit, because I would class myself in this time frame.

Tonight will be my second GA meeting, one that can be attended by family and friends, so should be interesting and imformative. I do a 90 mile round trip to attend these meetings, so I'm trying!

Can this thread be moved in to a dairy thread? If so how can this be done? Thanks.

Hi Shep

it's a shame to lose you this diary some good stuff in it you can transfer this over to the recovery diaries section if you wish. Or if you intend a new diary ignore me interfering

Hi,

Can someone advise how to transfer this thread over to my diary page??

Thanks in advance.

No probs.... I've started my diary and are trying to post as much as possible.