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Hi Barrow,

Welcome to the site, hope the forum can make you feel better.

All I would like to say is you are in a hole, like most of us on here! You can dig yourself deeper or start to climb your way out. To dig deeper you've only yourself to blame, to climb out there's many helping hands to help you do so. I'm hopefully starting the climb. I've got debts and a wife I'm yet to tell. You get one shot at this life, yes everyone can screw up and by doing far worse than we have. Others may not agree with what I say here but I'm 43 years old, my debts are around 12K, but to live another 40 or more years happy gamble free, getting my old personality back, I would pay 12K to do so and live a happy life.

I know debts have to be paid back and by losing your job it's going to be hard. Others will offer advice on debt repayment. But I hope you can find another job, not only will it provide income it will take your mind of other things. Even the father in law offering help is great, take it and do well, this will all feedback to the ex-mrs to show you are doing something, not only to get over your addiction but show you still love her and want to try again.

Its hard I know, but start the climb my friend, start looking up. Good luck.

Hi Barrow....just had a read through your diary.

You have had some good advice on here and you are doing well with not gambling. Your wife is angry and has every right to be and the only chance you have of sorting things out is by sorting yourself out first. Time is a great healer and although everything seems tough at the moment it will get better if you stay gamble free.....lets be honest it doesnt dsound like it can get much worse.

As people have said on here keep writing on your diary....you will get support. The worst feeling is feeling alone and since I have joined this site I have felt alone a whole lot less than I did when i was gambling.

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Thanks for all your words of encouragement it really is helping me as I seem to have nobody even trying to understand what I am going thru Am just about to give up am facing the good old Facebook campaign of warfare from the wife and her poisonous friends,

Hi barrow just read your diary. I've been where you are its f*****g hard but it does get easier both with the gambling and getting your life back on track. I had a lot of abuse at the start but if I'm honest nothing more than I deserved after the years of abuse I and my gambling had inflicted on her.

I just took it on the chin I had no defence the first 3 months where painful. I locked myself away. The bit gambling has been a breeze and I don't mean that flippantly I have been selfish and thrown everything I can at abstaining. I started a diary on here and updated a lot at the start, I put the blocks in place told family I had no choice but it made the most difference I go yo GA.

I'm not giving up on getting back together but I am trying carry on living again and show her my son and family I am worth having around. I see glimpse of hope but I'm at the if it happens it happens stage.

Just put as much effort into not gambling as you used to lie and decive your way to your next bet.

You've accepted and admitted your problems now it's time to work on changing them for the better.

I wish you well and will be here to support.

KTF

Having to accept my marriage is over had no sleep last 2days,God I just can't catch a break this is all hard enough without the emotional stress on top any more and my next stop is going to have to be Samaritans really can't cope

Barrow stay strong bud I know it painful but it will get easier no harm in calling someone if you need to talk. Take care

KTF

I'm from the other side of the fence, I was on the receiving end and my relationship with my husband is still painful. re your wife, my advice would be to think about how she's feeling and to focus less on how she's making you feel. That's what's lacking in my case.

Whatever the state of your marriage, you can overcome the addiction, but do what you have to do, ie put in place blocks and barriers, get help for you. No reason why any action or reaction of hers should stop you.

Wish you well,

CW

Hi Barrow, I'm so glad you've posted again and you know that thisw is the place to come for support from fellow gambling addicts. We're all so different when it comes to life experiences but we are all too similar when it comes to gambling addiction. You're wife is understandably furious with you and the consequences of your gambling but if you can show her how remorseful you are by abstaining then perhaps in time she will be willing to move forward with you.

I wish you both well. Take care my friend xx

Edited as posted last night when I was rather tipsy xx

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Annie what you like,never drink and txt lol.Have had another night of silence from wife so will have to accept that,just seems like I have so much to sort just to be able to focus on the gambling

Just gets better people that said would help me with place to stay while get myself sorted have changed their mind due to mother in law putting the boot in,and my family can't help more than a couple of nights so looks like will end up on the streets now.didn't know there was a level below rock bottom but heading right for it,really had enough

Just gets better people that said would help me with place to stay while get myself sorted have changed their mind due to mother in law putting the boot in,and my family can't help more than a couple of nights so looks like will end up on the streets now.didn't know there was a level below rock bottom but heading right for it,really had enough

Aw that's not so good eh? Can you get emergency housing from the local council? I don't know whereabout in the country you are but we have a council run advice shop for those in debt and who need accomodation - perhaps you can call the council tomorrow and see if they can help. There will also be voluntary agencies who can help. I cannot image how you are feeling but I really hope you sort things out. Get on the phone tomorrow and try to get something sorted and keep trying until you get the help you need. I will be thinking of you friend, take care and post soon xxxxx

Hi barrow, how you doing?

Hi guys haven't posted for a while have had no money for data credit,still gamble free but still find everything a struggle,to be honest I would rather put a stool through a fobt than put a pound on roulette,and stand on my phone than sign up and play online again.I do feel the cycle has been broken especially as I would always be more likely to gamble when funds were running low.Just wish everything else was in my hands rather than having to rely on people who go back on their words.wife has even given up texting me now just want her back so bad.