Hi I’ve decided now I need help.Â
I gambled a few years ago got into debt and my wife found out and said she would leave me if I did it again.Â
well I have and I’m in debt again, she found out again by accident this time but I’m glad she did.Â
now I don’t know what’s going to happen , if she’s gonna leave me and I’ve ruined our marriage.Â
Hi @tbnuawfrep  CheyChey
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It is great that you have opened up and posted your story.
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Be open and honest to you wife as lies and deceit is the hardest thing as an affected other to bear. I had to for 9 years and it almost destroyed my relationship with my son who gambled for 9 years.
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It has to your decision to stop for you and nobody else. To have a life free of harm from gambling has to be stronger than the need to gamble.
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My advice is that it is hard to stop yourself. Grab any help from Gamcare and any of its partners . Reach out to Gamcare helpline 24/7 to see what they can do.
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You have done it before you can do it again.
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Hope you get on ok and welcome to community, you are not alone and neither is your wife.
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Various chatrooms as well for you both to join, so check out the times.Â
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Patsy
Thanks for the reply, I’m hoping to find some softwear or something to block the sites so I can’t be tempted.Â
I have told her when I started again and how much I owe but I’ve hurt her and lied to her for months.Â
I will check the website to see what help is on offer. Any advise where to look would be great.Â
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