Hi! I am trying to stop gambling, I’ve been doing it since 2018. I stopped for a year in 2021 banning myself for 6 years. I managed to start again from my partners accounts. I guess she doesn’t like to say no to me, changing the passwords haven’t done much. It feels impossible to keep away from it but I’m trying. When I get paid, it’s all I think about doing, then when all of my money is gone, I borrow it..so it’s a vicious cycle. My mental health is spiralling, I feel so alone, angry, confused and controlled by gambling.
my partner does it too, I’ve had conversations with her many times and even cried, letting her know that it’s a massive problem and that I feel it’s ruining my life. She’s said she will delete the accounts. She still has 3 active ones, one in which she lets me on, said I can do £40 a month but When she puts in the password, I can put on what I want.
I need to get away from it, When I told her this she said I’m giving her an ultimatum (me or gambling) when I know that’s not the case, I just don’t want to be around it because I know I have no self control and it’s ruining my life.
I need help
Dear Nat,
Thank you for coming to our forum to share your situation. You recognise the harm your gambling is causing and the added complexity as your partner also gambles. Please try and get some support for your mental wellbeing. In addition to posting on the forum you can also contact us on the helpline for a one to one chat with an adviser where we can go through the options for further support.
Best Wishes
Fiona
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Hi Nat
i have exactly the same problem its such a difficult thing to stop even when you ban yourself theres still ways around it, i wondered if maybe you need to talk to someone that is in the same boat but isnt your partner as maybe it may help.
Hi Nat good luck, hope you get through this, all gambling ever caused between me and my partner was arguments, its an evil, our brains just crave the kick it gives us,
All I am trying to do is have that feeling of when you've lost it all,in my mind and hopefully my brain thinks, no I dont want that , we will see, hope you can beat this, both of you
all my best wishes LCS
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