New to gamcare

You need to come clean do u have any close friends who can support u trust me when i came clean to my family it was the hardest thing i could do as gambling is frowned apon i had no choice as i began to lose all my wages due to this ilness i was out of control for 3 years and the urgues were strong i couldnt i kept repeating and wasent offered any support like Ga they didnt support me as they gave me bills to pay for debt and i couldnt control my self i went to Ga on my own accord and seek help im actually in much better state now and have had numrous relapses over the years however i dont get myself to the position it affects me finanically its only money i have saved up from not gambling i have checked myself back into Ga after i had a relapse over 2 years and hopefully i can do better this time around

I found once I stopped gambling and the volatility of my finances eased I was able to see things clearer. I am only 7 days GF and my finances are the same as they were 1 week ago. The difference is I can think straight now. I can problem solve without gambling confusing everything. 

once you stop gambling you will give yourself headspace to think everything else through

one day at a time this will get easier

You have made a positive step by reaching out

x

Hi Cazza, wow has your post hit home with me. This is exactly the same position I am in at the moment. I too got paid the week before Christmas and I have used the lot on gambling (online roulette to be precise). It has left me in such a state I have no money for my bills all coming out the beginning of the month. I am on Christmas holidays still and go back to work in January and I haven’t been able to enjoy them as I’ve been frantically looking for loans but like you I can’t get one as I have tapped out every Avenue.
I live with my partner and my children and they have no idea the state I am in. I’m stressing my parents out and my partner as they don’t understand where all my money has gone but I haven’t got the guts to tell them as I’m usually seen as the sensible one. I feel so ashamed but I have vowed I am going to change my life for the better come new year, I can’t go on like this. 
I have decided I am just going to let all my bills bounce, as horrible as it is and I absolutely hate it, I have to face the music with it. I’m hoping once January is out the way I can start to rebuild. 

At least you have a roof over your head Cazza and family if when the time is right you can talk to.  But I totally understand that you don’t want to. 
We have made the first step by coming onto here, that means we know we have a problem. It’s going to be hard but we can ride the storm. There is hope I can see it. 

Hi Cazza, wow has your post hit home with me. This is exactly the same position I am in at the moment. I too got paid the week before Christmas and I have used the lot on gambling (online roulette to be precise). It has left me in such a state I have no money for my bills all coming out the beginning of the month. I am on Christmas holidays still and go back to work in January and I haven’t been able to enjoy them as I’ve been frantically looking for loans but like you I can’t get one as I have tapped out every Avenue.
I live with my partner and my children and they have no idea the state I am in. I’m stressing my parents out and my partner as they don’t understand where all my money has gone but I haven’t got the guts to tell them as I’m usually seen as the sensible one. I feel so ashamed but I have vowed I am going to change my life for the better come new year, I can’t go on like this. 
I have decided I am just going to let all my bills bounce, as horrible as it is and I absolutely hate it, I have to face the music with it. I’m hoping once January is out the way I can start to rebuild. 

At least you have a roof over your head Cazza and family if when the time is right you can talk to.  But I totally understand that you don’t want to. 
We have made the first step by coming onto here, that means we know we have a problem. It’s going to be hard but we can ride the storm. There is hope I can see it. 

Okay, this is my bit for what it is worth. I have also been in this same position, but through pure fortune I had a moment of clarity. I didn't let and bills bounce without phoning each company I owed money too, and telling them that I was addicted to gambling but seeking help. I asked for some breathing space for a short while, I also pointed out that I intended to pay everything in full the first chance I had. In my case, everyone listened including credit card companies. I then told everyone who needed to know about my addiction,  this relieved some pressure and made me feel in control. Seek some help and support from wherever you feel appropriate, but avoid short term loans, you will gamble the money with big pay back costs. I believe that if you phone the helpline here, they may be able to point you in the right direction. 

@charosully wow yes we have made the first Move its a good Start we got this we can do it xx

@charosully yes we have made first steps

thank you all 

@faith-777 thank u 

@tazman  i dont really have Any close Friends ive always been kind of a loner i struggle with socializing with people there work Friend i have but i cant really trust them to behonest. You got this u can do it again to0 xx

@carolp thank u well done to you to getting through ur steps this far to xx