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I wish you well. Your husband sounds amazing. Stay strong, you can do this. Its day 2 for me so we're both starting out on our journey of saying NO to gambling xx

Bless you! We're ALL compulsive gamblers on this site - your predicament is very tough on you and all because you couldn't resist the temptation to steal the money for gambling. You'll find that when you get to Court as this is a first offence, you will be dealt with leniently especially as you have family support and you have sought help from gamcare. There is an old saying "there but for the grace of God go I".... many of us could have been in your situation as a result of this hideous disease! I wish you the very best and success in your recovery!! Take heart, you are not alone in this. Keep posting and start your diary.

Helen. X

Hi nessy,

Welcome to the Forum, and well done for your post. I felt very touched with the details, and I do empathise with you. You’ve been very honest in admitting to your gambling problem, and been brave about the whole situation. I’m glad you felt “a huge weight has been lifted off your shoulders” after confessing your gambling addiction problem.

I’m aware it’s not something that you wanted to experience but, let’s hope that now that everything is in the open, it will help you to seek help, and also to get the maximum help and support for your recovery process.

We’re all aware gambling addiction is difficult to try and overcome it by yourself; that’s why you need professional help to do it, and Gamcare is here to help you to do just that.

Maybe, you’ll like to phone our free phone Helpline on: 0808 8020 133 for a 1 to 1 chat with one of our specially trained advisers. The adviser will be able to advise you on strategies and boundaries to help you to control your urges, and also refer you for 12 sessions of free counselling if you think that would help you to overcome your gambling addiction.

In addition, the adviser can sign post you to the nearest Gamblers Anonymous meeting in case you’d like to attend their meetings for support and strength.

You can choose to open a diary here, and keep record of your own recovery, and to monitor your progress.

I’m advising you to try and stay in touch with us, and also to read regularly from our forum. In the forum, you’ll learn from others’ experiences, and what they did or, are still doing to help them overcome their gambling addiction. You can then apply these strategies to your own circumstances.

Wishing you the best with recovery process, and also for your court case. Thanks once again for your post, and please do post as often as you can.

Kind regards,

Beatrice

Hi everyone me again, I have lost my job which I knew was going to happen but didn't like hearing it, I have told my closest friend who I work with mainly cos I didn't want her to hear bout it through the grapevine so that she knows the truth, she is a true friend cos like my husband she is sticking by me.

she has already heard something which she told me and I set her straight as what she had heard was all lies as they will be (Chinese whispers)

I know things are gonna be said bout me at work but what is done is done, I cant change it and if I could I would take the clock back to the end of july when this started but I cant.

I am the one paying for the stupid thing I did which I do regret and the 1 person I have let down the most is myself.

My husband was off yesterday with me and we have had a huge heart to heart which has helped me but has gone back to work today so I feel a little alone although looking after niece and nephew so will keep me occupied, I will post again still trying to figure this site out but am getting there and thank you to everyone who has posted and wished me well on my long journey to recovery

nessy

Hi Nessy

I hope things are going well for you. It must have been devastating to find yourself in that position and I think a lot of us on this site have thought about funding our habit by illegal means. You have to remember that it was not 'you' but this evil disease. So glad your friend and husband are sticking by you. They can obviously see beyond the one action which lead to your dismissal.

You are not alone, we are all here in various stages of our recovery and you will find lots of support and encouragement.

I wish you luck with your own recovery.

Elfie x

Hi nessy - What a traumatic time you have been through recently. I have immense respect for you in facing up to this and for seeking help from your family and friends - that took a great deal of courage and I am sure that courage will see you through this. You have a special husband who loves and supports you and that will be a great motivation for you to seek a more fulfilling and ultimately happier life for you both.

I hope that by now you are beginning to feel a little more hopeful about the future and are receiving some counselling to help you move forward. Very often being able to identify the things which triggered your addiction can help you understand your actions.

As Elfie has said, there will always be advice, sympathy, support and encouragement here so do keep logging on and reading other people's stories.

Best wishes to you.

Joanna

I wish i could get some counselling but there are none where I live, the closest from gamecare is in Bournemouth and the gamblers anonymous meetings near me are in Portsmouth which will cost me to get across to them. Im not using that as an excuse but unsure if im gonna get any money from anywhere and I need to live. Im on here when I can and building up the courage to start a diary as a few days especially yesterday I wanted to go out and not come back!!

Its been a week since all this kicked off and yes ive been tempted to gamble but NOT done it and am a little proud of that but not the situation I am in.

I would like to thank everyone for their support and words which I am reading and taking on board and just looking to the future one day at a time at the moment until the court case is done and find out what is happening

Thanks again guys means a lot to me

nessy x

Hi Nessy

I'm new to the site too. Been gambling for 7 years and I can totally relate to that intense overwhelming need for funds. I echo what one of the other members said " there but for the grace of God". Each and every one of us on here have made really cr** choices around money, we have been dishonest with ourselves and others . Sometimes it takes hitting rock bottom before we see that we need help. I'm sorry you are at your rock bottom just now, tough gig. Keep your chin up and take one day at a time. Take care 🙂

Hi Nessy

Was just checking to see if you had posted again. How are you doing ? Give us a wee update to let us know you are ok. Stay strong 🙂

T x

Hi CannaeWin,

Ive not posted for a few days as I think I have hit lower than bottom! for the last few days I have wanted to go out and not come back, selfish I know and it would bring a lot of heartache to my family and friends who are with me on this.

I am getting support from everyone which I know I need but don't think I deserve it, sometimes I wish someone would shout at me and tell me the things ive done have been stupid etc then I think I would appreciate the help and support even more than I am.

Im beginning to not sleep as the court date is getting nearer and I don't know what the outcome of that is going to be, im fearing the worst which I don't think is helping me but my logic is fear the worst and if the worst happens its not such a shock to me.

sorry ive babbled on but I know people on here will listen and wont judge me like friends and family will

N xx

Hi Nessy

Sorry to hear you are not sleeping. Have you spoken to your doctor ? They might be able to give you something to tide you over for the short term . Might also be able to refer for counselling.

I'm glad your friends and family are being supportive, you do deserve that, everyone deserves a second chance. We all make mistakes.

Hopefully the court will take into account that you are open to getting help, they must see cases like this all the time. Thinking of you 🙂

Its been a few days since I posted as have been sorting out things.

Also ive been worrying and still worrying bout my day in court which is tomorrow and excuse my language but am s******g myself as I don't know what the outcome will be.

I'm fearing the worst cos if it happens then it wont be a shock to me but am wondering how I am gonna deal with the outcome!!!

My husband is going to be with me dunno if that's a good or bad thing but am pleased I am gonna have someone with me as I know I am gonna need their support.

I will update in a few days thanks for listening guys

N x

Its been a few days since I posted as have been sorting out things.

Also ive been worrying and still worrying bout my day in court which is tomorrow and excuse my language but am s******g myself as I don't know what the outcome will be.

I'm fearing the worst cos if it happens then it wont be a shock to me but am wondering how I am gonna deal with the outcome!!!

My husband is going to be with me dunno if that's a good or bad thing but am pleased I am gonna have someone with me as I know I am gonna need their support.

I will update in a few days thanks for listening guys

N x

Nessy

I wish you the very best for tomorrow, fingers crossed that the court will be empathetic with you and show some leniency. Will be thinking of you tomorrow hun I will light a candle for the best outcome for you xxx