Hey all.. i really need some help.. i started gambling on too many sites to name about 4 years ago. i spent thousands a month until i was literally skint - not a penny to my name. it was either bingo or slots until i closed down all the websites and deactivated them.
I soon started to get depressed, and my life went down hill, my ex committed suicide, i found out i had a medical condition and couldn't have kids, and i eventually found my self back on different websites. My Current partner who i have been with since my ex passed knows i gamble and he knew i had an addiction back then and helped me out of it. He doesnt know i am back on to gambling.
i have deactivated all my accounts again but i find that not only online gambling is getting me, but its fruit machines, casinos, and my current worst addiction is scratchcards. I dont just buy 1 or 2 i buy 40 or 50 at a time - and go back for more with the money i win from them.
I spend all my wages on them and tell my partner i haven't been paid and i went to uni and spent all my uni funds on gambling. I also got out a £750 overdraft and spent that on gambling on top of the thousands i had from working. I have also got out loans to fund my addiction.
my partner and i have just been accepted for a flat and I am scared that im going to spend my rent and food money on gambling because whenever i go into a shop for some cigs, go into a pub for a drink, there are going to be urges.
I literally have dreams about gambling, and when i know its payday my body automatically gets up at 5am before my partner so i can either go online and gamble, or go to the petrol station for scratchcards.
Please help me.. i am so stuck and i cry every time i do it.. 🙁
You've had a real rough time, Life can be cruel. but you've taken the first step towards combating this destructive habit, its all about rebuilding your life from here on. Your partner, she can help you through this, but you need be honest and admit your problem to her. Do you have separate bank accounts? Maybe you could have your wages paid into her account? Your partner could have the Bills debited from her account. Then maybe your partner could perhaps give you a small amout of money a day (£5-£10) to do as you please with. Should you gamble it, it wouldn't be a major loss. Its hard having your money in someone else's hands but at least this way, your bills will get paid. I hope this advice is useful. I wish you the best of luck my friend.
You really need to tell your partner again - this will be a huge relief and a weight off your shoulders.
Look into one to one counselling or group therapy - where do you live? They have them all over the country.
Read my new member post from November. It took me ages to finally admit to having an addiction but it's the best thing I've ever done.
If your boyfriend loves you he'll support you so best to tell him. Keeping it to yourself can only make things worse.
Adam.
I thin he already knows, he is always questioning me about it. We have different bank accounts but even if he did give me 5-10£ per day I know it would go on scratch cards. I told him to change my pin but It didn't Help because I just go into the bank and take out money with identification. I feel like gambling is the only thing that makes me feel better after a crappy day or if I'm feeling down. I won 2k the other day and gambled it all on higher stakes.. That could have paid 4 months rent for me.. I have had council long, my mum even took me to see a psychologist because she knew I was loosing it.. But in the end he still told me where to go because of my temper.. So much for private healthcare is the best!
I live in Sheffield until next week where I am moving to Leicester, so anyone know of anything good to help, please give me a shout
Thanks guys I'll keep in touch
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