struggling to gain control

Hi Jon,

Thanks for your post, and I hope you're finding the forum to be a supportive place. You can see that you're really not alone with this problem.

It sounds like your finances are a mess at the moment, with all the credit card and overdraft transferring you're doing. What I can promise you is, things will definitely improve if you quit gambling. It might take a while, but without gambling in the picture your life will get easier, less stressful, and you'll be able to manage your finances better.

If you're doing a lot of gambling online, have you thought about downloading blocking software? Gamblock ( http://www.gamblock.com/index.html ) and Betfilter ( http://www.betfilter.com/ ) can prevent any gambling sites from opening on your computer, and they're pretty good protection. You might also consider getting individual counselling to work on ways to manage your gambling urges. For that, just get in touch with us on either the Netline or our Freephone Helpline and we can tell you what might be closest to you.

Hope this helps,

Travis Kerns

Thanks for you reply Travis

I've managed to block gaming from my computer, I think I do need to try and get some counselling, I worry I mite be judged and never be seen the same again by my partner if she finds out about my mess

Jon,

Your scenario is in many ways similar to my own, particularly the vicious cycle of transfers and such.

All I can say is abstinence for me first removed the habitual nature of my gambling. As the habit stopped my head became clearer as I was not preoccupied with where I would be losing money next. Now a few months down the line, the finances are getting better.

I just wanted to wish you all the best Jon, and I've taken a lot of really invaluable guidance from people here its a helpful place.

Hi how you doing?

I read your post and it was like reading my own story. Life for me now is a circle of paying back debts built up by gambling. But they are coming down and when I have a thought to gamble I think the money would be better of paying part of that debt. I have to admit it does make life pretty boring compared to what I thought was fun, but at the end of the month I have money left in my bank and I have not had that for a very long time.

Stick with it, its hard, but once you see how much money you can save not gambling it really makes you realise how much you wasted.

Be strong, you can do this.

Kay

Thankyou for your supportive messages I'm going to keep in touch with this forum it seems to help me knowing I'm not alone in this and I'm not stuck! I'm gonna beat this