Hi,
I'm a problem gambler and this has to be the end of gambling for me to save what I have left of family and friend relationships. I have been gambling for the past 4 years now and although had some amazing wins e.g. £8600 on roulette one night online I have lost not only money but my personality has been deflated due to the emotional ups and downs, and most of all my family and friends have been cheated on. I have lied through borrowing to gamble, intentionally to win money for myself and pay them back and lost on many occasions. I have come clean to them numerous times and after each occasion I forget the hurt after a few months and go back to it. Saying that I'm not going back now I've spoke to gam care, come clean to friends and family again and arranged councilling. I need to have a rapport with someone to help me get through day by day. I'm not only doing this to salvage my life but to stop the hurt and anger my family and friends go through due to my gambling.
I have a great job, wonderful friends and a supporting family who have said one more time and no more so I now face up to the consequences and if I break them I've personally made myself lonely.
It is a lonely habit gambling and zaps your energy away from important things in life.
Anyway be great to hear from you guys as to helping me and I will also be there for you
Cheers to the quiting, no more lies, and this is now the start of something good
Thanks Deano encouraging start
Hi never give up i have only been on for 5 days now after decades of gambling .
Would not like to see you go the way i did .
Good luck stay strong look forward not backwards.
Arranged councilling today feel better. Need to stay on this track now
Hi Quit, story sounds familiar to my own, Everton also bust me a few weeks back against Southampton not scoring in second half for thousands and some of the chances they missed were ridiculous. I guess that's why we will never win.Chat soon and take care.
Hi Ruairi, thanks for your post. I must admit there is a buzz about watching a game with money on it. I had paid all my debts off with a big win had ВЈ1300 in my account, steadier credit score and I bet on Watford beating city £30, city scored two in last two mins and got so angry that I went on roulette and lost the balance trying to make up for it. Sad story but gets worse. Then I start to get pay day loans out, lose them, get guarantor loan out 2k lose that borrow off friends, lose that. I'm now rock bottom for the God knows how many times in past four years. I'm going to work hard and pay off all debt, get good credit rating and save up for a house. It's nice to have a dream like this
Hi stay strong we are not bad people but we have made bad choices.cannot change the past but can have a better future.
Open bank account hard to access every time what to bet send the cash there watch it grow not dissapear
Hi quit, you will quit if you really want to and you can do it if you stay strong. Take one day at a time and when that nagging voice starts talking to you tell him where to go and keep yourself busy. Don't let your guard down thinking you are in control and you can have just one little bet because you are a CG you have no control and that is what has brought you here. You will win every day that you stay away from gambling. If you get any urges keep yourself busy and away from any devices.
I too got swamped with the payday loans. It has messed my credit rating right up as I never paid them for ages but always seemed able to get another. I now have a DMP and found that has been the best thing ever to support my financial situation, although everybody is different. I'm not too worried at the moment as I don't want any credit but I do know that things can only get better now as my bills are paid on time every month.
Really pleased that you have organised counselling as that will be such a help. Have you looked into GA meetings? I have never attended as I don't have one local to myself but I have heard mixed reviews, mostly very good.
I really wish you all the best with your journey and hope that you keep strong. Keep posting daily as you will soon see the days mount up.
Thanks tily for your message very supportive and means alot. I've been on a dmp before and recommend them however at the moment I'm mostly in debt to my parents and a close friend 2700 so once I clear them will pay the pay day loans off pro rata and I'll be on top of that. Day 4 now of being gamble free and love this new way of living even though I have no money until 21st March. I'll get through by lending bits off parents. Ive been on the gam care chats which are good but looking forward to my assessment on tue then meeting next fri
Well it's been the end of my first week as a recovering cg and to be honest it's been really easy, note I wouldn't have said this without the support on chat room, highly recommended. I've thought about gambling on numerous times don't get me wrong but I'm blocking it out with my angel on the right side of my mind. I've got my assessment on tue at 6pm on the phone which I'm really looking forward to, fingers crossed it all goes well. I'm so positive about my future thinking of all the good things I'm going to invest my money in, paying debts, treating family, saving for a house.
Here's to week nr 2, one step at a time
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