Hello
Help,I have a big problem,i gamble online in massive splurges depositing hundreds after hundreds on credit cards,then i win a bit,pay a bit back,then start all over again. In this current spurlge I have done about 6 grand and can't stop. I am married with 2 small children and began this horrible journey a few years ago after my mum passed away. My wife found about the gambling after my son opened a credit card statement and I promised it would stop. I carried on and set it up so my statements were paperless and I pay minimum amounts by winning and depositing back in. The last time my wife found out I had spent 4 grand, luckily she is very understanding and organised our finances to cover this. We both earn decent money but eventually I will blowvthe lot,I know it. I promised last time I wouldn't do it again,but now I find myself 6 grand down and in a hole so seeing don't know where to go. I know I gamble when I'm stressed, I have a stressful job and to make things worse my wife was diagnosed with breast cancer in March, she us currently undergoing chemotherapy and had 2 rounds of surgery. I feel like the worst person in the world for doing this again,but I can't stop, I won £500 earlier, and only have 100 left.dont know what to do We have enough to deal with without this
Feel lost
Don't know how to solve it
Help
Morning firstly I am sorry about your wife I guess you are there for her which is great. What you need right now is someone to hold you and look you in the eye and say this is going to go away this addiction and you will be fine. Well it’s not that easy I have been struggling for 10 years with this issue of making easy money from gambling and it doesn’t work because once you start you can’t stop until financial disaster comes round. Are you at that point? If not you may continue to gamble and end like many on here broke and also mentally destroyed, use this site to turn your life around and work really hard really hard at stopping, you owe that to your young family.
Hi Chris I'm wife of cg. Get some support by calling gamcare. Maybe your gp, you've got a lot going on. Cancel your credit cards, when the new one comes scratch off the 3 digits. Just try living one day at a time, just for today you won't gamble. Maybe you could get support from a close friend? I don't know but get some help. I wish your wife well.
Hi Chris,
Your situation sounds very stressful so you will need plenty of support, but be careful as I know myself when things got stressful I used gambling as a form of escape even though it only made things even worse. Sounds like something similar may have happened you when you lost your mum. The only way to solve this is to stop gambling.
I would suggest looking up your nearest GA meeting and getting to one asap, there you can talk to fellow compulsive gamblers and you will gain the knowledge you need to tackle your addiction. It wont happen over night and is not easy but you can beat this. Everything else will fall into place, when you gamble free you will notice your debts slowly start going down. You can also contact Gamcare to get some free councelling sessions which would help you also.
I wish you all the best in your struggle to overcome, keep posting here.
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