I joined this group today because I've read it's easier to talk with people going through the same thing. I've been gambling for years, it started as a bit of fun but eventually spiralled out of control. Today was the day I told my Mrs and it was hands down the hardest thing I've ever done! She's taken it better than I imagined but I can see the hurt and disappointment in her! I've let her down, my son down and myself down. I've spent money that wasn't even mine, it was ours as a family and I've taken it! I've stopped us from being able to do fun things as a family because I've used the money for an addiction that I didn't even realise I had! It got to a point where I wasn't even gambling for a win, I was gambling for a thrill. I didn't care if I lost the bet because the same thrill would come from the next one. Today is the 1st day of the new me, the me who will never place another bet, a better me! How can I expect my Mrs to stay by my side or my son to grow up proud of me if I can't keep my word? How can I live with myself if I become the reason they don't? I couldn't, it wouldn't be right. So today is the day, it's happening, I will never place another bet!
My partner told me four days ago about his gambling and he hasn't once said or shown the any of the strength that you have wrote about... I wish you all the very best luck in the world for yourself and your family... This website seems like its full of help and support I encourage you to use all help out here available, and commend you for your bravery... Good luck
AAMM
Thank you! It's nice to see that there's so much support out there from so many people!
He may not have shown the strength yet but it will come. I can't imagine how hard it must be for you, for my partner or anyone else on the other side of this horrible addiction! But I do know what it's like on my side, it grips you, it takes over you, it does it's very best to take over your life. Your partner will still be getting his head around how he was made so weak by something so simple! There is nothing better than when you have the support of your partner though, it makes it so much easier! I can't say I'd have blamed my Mrs for kicking me out! As little control as you have over the addiction, it still doesn't change the fact that the money spent belonged to the family as a whole. So I commend you or anyone else who stands by their partner and goes through it with them!
I hope it all goes well for the both of you!
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