Well I’m back after a long time away.

well the good new is you are here, and here is the best place to be.  If you put all the blocks in and i mean all (transfer all money to a loved one each month after bills, don't carry cards with u out unless needed, and carry the cash you need to survive).  Then the most important part of gambling isn't there and that is MONEY, its tough and a drastic action to take but trust me its for the best and you see after six months that it works when you are payig all bills and saving money towards important things in life.  You can have nice holidays, drinks out, meals out etc, all if you just relinquish control of money after all if you're like me managing money is a problem!!!!!  Make this  Christmas great there's still time and 2020 well if u go the entire year without a bet wouldn't that be something to cherish.

As the partner of a Gambler the worst thing is the lying and the empty promise that you won’t do it  again. Be honest, when you gamble. 

Get your girlfriend to come with you to ban yourself from the bookies. Show her you need her help and support. Tell her when you are tempted, she may be able to help discover what the triggers are. We need to understand why.

Bless your not on your own I’ve given my phone away and got one I can’t gamble on no laptop spend more time with her you can’t hide it when your with her she can think the worst my partner thought I was having an affair I know it’s hard but a least your trying don’t give up band yourself from all betting shops your not allowed in then and sites

Thanks all. Unfortunately for me it’s all online. The days of me walking down to the betting shop are many years behind me. Trust me what I spend over the phone online gambling I would never hand over that sort of cash. 

This habit just eats away at me. I could go a few months without placing a bet then that’s it once it’s in my head I’m going to have a bet there is no stopping me. I search all the markets getting excited then place the bet and then straight away regret it. 

I put my days around betting I won’t go out I don’t want to eat all I want to do this watch live sport and bet. Wasted so much time on this and lost so much money I’ll never be Able to get back. It’s eatting away at me.

Hi mate 

you sound similar to me sports betting is my bag and I can spend days doing nothing other than betting it all leads to me being skint, I could be 20 grand up and it would always end up back in the bookies hand it might take 6 months but it will never be enough not to gamble it back so 47 days ago I said no more first bets. 
I’m no expert and have relapsed many times just forget about the gambling in sport and if you don’t want to watch it without a bet don’t bother.

stay safe LR

Thanks LR. Your totally right. The days of me just placing a £5/£10 Acca on a football bet. In the end it’s not about enjoying the gamble anymore. I don’t bet to enjoy it. I do it for some stupid reason. A 30 second buzz once it’s placed and if it comes in. Then when it doesn’t thr depression I get for days/weeks. Then after that feeling I think about betting again. 

But ive had enough I hate myself for betting yesterday and for how much I’ve lost. Right now I would normally be watching the games all day. I can’t even watch thr sport today as I’ve just lost all enjoyment for it right now. At the minute I’m skint again and not a pot to **** in. Gonna take me months to get out of the state I’ve put myself in again. And to top it off I’m getting married come December. I’ve lost all motivation today I’ve got to go to work tomorrow and put on a front like everything is ok and I’m fine when inside all I’m thinking about is what I’ve lost yesterday and over all.  

Hi SM8. Sorry to here what has happened to you. I'm same with the sports betting. I have stopped watching sports and results as this is a big trigger for me. It has helped me big time and the gambling has not called to me as much as when looking at results and watching sport. Hope you do well in stopping again. 

Hi Mate,

I know the feeling, been there worn the t-shirt etc etc. i've recently opened up a debit card account with Monzo, it has a feature on the app where you can disable any gambling transactions. It can be disabled,however you have to ring them direct and explain why you wish to disable, then if they agree, there is a 2 days cooling off period before it is re-activated. Because i am a compulsive gambler this has helped me a lot, and since opening the account i havn't had 1 online bet. best of luck for the future ! 

Thanks mate. Just don’t know what to do with myself without watching sport. I know what you mean about looking at the result because as soon as I see the result I think to myself I would of won money of that today. That’s when I start to talk myself into it all again. 

Hello, online sports betting was my bag and I lost plenty and reached the pits of despair. Thankfully I signed up to gamstop for 5 years and the gambling just stopped, I didn't try to find another bookie that wasn't affiliated to Gamstop as I just accepted it was the end. That was around 19 months ago and whilst I'm still recovering financially I have accepted my losses and look forwards. If you are not signed up to Gamstop then I urge you to do so. All the best.

My only small bit of advice is use that marriage as a motivation not to gamble till then, I got married 4 years back and had a spell of 100 odd days beforehand. At the moment I am trying to use birth of my second child as a starting motivator but I know this time that is not the end date but is just another small step in beating this disease but it works when I am feeling weak.

The logic we gamblers use to feed these fat cats is mind boggling and a lot of gamblers I know and am friendly with I would class as intelligent people so how are we all being herded like sheep by these no faced corporate c*****s? no longer for me be well LR

Yes that's when we go crazy and think thing's will be different this time but never is and we will sort out everyone else problems for them. That's what i told myself so that i could gamble again. I had to believe i was not selfish so my compulsion of gambling could get its fix. Watching sports and looking at results just kept me gambling in my head until the next time I could get some cash any means possible. 

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Yes that's when we go crazy and think thing's will be different this time but never is and we will sort out everyone else problems for them. That's what i told myself so that i could gamble again. I had to believe i was not selfish so my compulsion of gambling could get its fix. Watching sports and looking at results just kept me gambling in my head until the next time I could get some cash any means possible. 

How are you now mate? How long you be GF 

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Yes that's when we go crazy and think thing's will be different this time but never is and we will sort out everyone else problems for them. That's what i told myself so that i could gamble again. I had to believe i was not selfish so my compulsion of gambling could get its fix. Watching sports and looking at results just kept me gambling in my head until the next time I could get some cash any means possible. 

How are you now mate? How long you be GF