After a year of not gambling last night I lost over 4 k

How did you stop for a year ?

How did you stop for a year ?

Hi Jason

Really sorry to hear your back where you were. What do you think your trigger was after a year abstaining? Looking at your previous posts on here it seems you had some blocks in place but not all?

I wish there was a sure fire way to just stop gambling but its a long hard slog and you must be 100% committed to putting the work in.

You say your wife was mad, maybe she needs to look at getting some help for herself in order to understand and help you both. Get all the blocks in place, get some counselling arranged, hand control of your finances over to your wife.

You've taken a huge step coming back on here so keep on coming on, updating your progress or even just to vent it all helps.

Here's to the start of a positive recovery 🙂

Dx

Here are a few pointers. N I’ve been a gambler for 25 years but stopped. I’m 40 years old and started when I was 15. If u continue to gamble u will never have nothing. Turn ur wallet over to ur partner. Block any gambling or gaming sites on ur phone, stay away from people that gamble. Those are just a few tips. Good luck.

You are not alone .... i also lost last night not near your 4k ... but i believe anything counts .... it just makes u feel guilty and misarable. What helps me a lot is reading on this forum and focusing on work and meditating. this is a disease. a mental dissorder. most of us get a high / adrenaline rush from gambling , its like a drug.

one day we will all stop. i hit rock bottom so many times ... but not yet in the streets and no food on the table. me and my family struggle a lot with finances for the past 7- 8 months and yet i still gamble instead of improving our finances ... put food on the table and pay bills etc.

we can do this - stay strong ...

my mom understands me even if she gets mad - your partner will understand too, just be nice to her and explain why you think you gambled and try to get some help. coming month i will start therapy once again, and I might also use gamcare's support.

good luck with your recovery

Jason181.

So i saw this post was a couple months ago just wondered how you are doing now? I am a self confessed addict now in recovery and am 417 days without a single play/bet. Coming clean was an extremely difficult time for me, at first my fianceГ© really struggled to understand but over time she attended some of my 1 to 1 sessions and learned a lot about how the addiction had gotten hold of me.

Gambling is honestly the worst addiction to become clean of, you can't just wean off it's cold turkey or play. For the first few weeks my withdrawl was awful I was lashing out at my family and really losing my temper so quickly. I had nothing, i had been hiding my addiction and landed myself into a few grand of debt but in over a year after some REALLY hard work and sacrifices have reduced that into just over £700. It is such a lonely place to be but when you let someone in and build up an accoubtability group you realise how many people care for you and love you because they all want to help you.

My Mrs and my children are my saving grace, today i had to explain to my 6 year old son the danger of a fruit machine when we were having lunch in a restaurant. He said to me "Daddy that game looks so cool and you get money". I had a long chat about the tricks they play (to simplify it for a 6 year old) and said when he older me and his Grandpa will tell him the real truth about them.

Be proud of you my friend nobody outside this addiction understands it, people look at us gambling addicts as losers and nobodys but they put an arm around alcoholics etc (no disrespect meant to any alcoholics). Keep fighting mate and if you wish to hear my story I can arrange to private chat you so you have someone to talk to can hear how not alone you are from a fellow gambler.

Matty

I'm sorry to hear this. I lost a similar amount yesterday. It's awful I know. It's an addiction and cAn be tempting to want to try your luck again. I just joined this forum yesterday after gambling for over a year. It wiped all my savings and I feel sick. Just got to try and accept it and start again.

After stopping for 5 yrs I fell off the gambling free bus in February and lost a lot of money. My old Dad would say.. Chin up, chest out.. And face the world, you can do it. (he was a bookies runner in the 50s and 60s.. Think he'd be in shock if he knew about the Internet etc. Having a colour television was the highlight of his day!