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Hi,

One more time, is the classic sign of a gambling problem.

Well done on taking the first step and joining.

Now get the blocks in place, sign up to gamstop...this cuts off most online gambling.

At least if you spend on cloths you have something to show for it, gambling is just burning money.

Blocks up and take each day as it comes.

You can do this.

Hi there and welcome to the forum 🙂 . 

I truly believe everyone on this forum has uttered those word's " Just one more time " at least a hundred times if not more ? . 

We always think that one more Spin of the wheel or roll of the dice will make all our dreams a reality but the mantra that  Compulsive gamblers live by is " We cannot win because we cannot stop " and I know from personal experience that I could never walk away  really winning and any time I did manage to it was quickly given back  ASAP . 

Maybe the whole " Couldn't care less attitude " when spending  is intertwined with the relationship you have with money as a result of gambling , I know I just saw money as gambling tokens and lost site completely of it's true value as in actually buying something with it .

This forums full of  like minded folk with a wealth of information and all with one aim , whatever you need to know just ask and someone will respond or speak to admin if you need any further help . 

I hope you stick around as sometimes you just need to be among'st others that understand what your feeling in order to stop gambling , you've done the hard bit by being here and I wish you well going forward 🙂 

Alan  

Hi.

I'm 11 days gamble free (not long but its the best ive done) and still today had the demon on my shoulder saying "just one more time, end it on a high". Even if i won I know its not worth the disappointment in myself for that one quick bet. 

Just know you're not alone and try stay strong. Take each day as it comes and take pride for every day you go without having a bet. Don't feel down if you do have a relapse. Just start again and try and do better. 

We can beat this disease!!!

I shall share a story of mine with you all to show the one more time never works.

I have been a compulsive gamblers for many years..with one really reckless streak where I amassed thousands of pounds in debt.

I stopped and started over the years...then this year had a run and won thousands....did I walk...did I heck....did settle my debts...did I heck, one more time sat in my shoulder...and you guessed it...blew nearly all of it ..although I did manage to walk away and settle in debt, and decided to turn my back on the demon for good.

At one point when a large amount up, I loaded gamstop to register, as I was aware I could lose it all, but one more time sat there...

The story no matter what we win, we will lose...so get off the train as that what if will never be achieved using this evil demon

Hope that helps you ...

Stay strong.....use your money wisely..not on chance

Hi

The addictions and obsessions were just symptoms that I was not a healthy person.

How much time and energy am I willing to place in to my recovery and my healing.

Each time I said to myself oh cares any way was the instant I was giving up all faith and hope in myself.

Being in the recovery I would understand how emotionally unhealthy I was, I would start to understand my unhealthy reactions to people life and situations.

The money was just the fuel for my addictions, I would find no emotional resolve through money.

All the time I was chasing my money lost I was living in the past.

Just for today is about setting boundaries.

Just for today I will not gamble is not about any type of gambling or addiction, just for today I will not gamble is a boundary that means I am not willing to hurt myself or any one else any more, just for today I will not gamble means that just for today I am going to value myself.

The recovery was not going to stop me gambling, that had to be my own conscious choice.

The recovery was going to help me understand each of my emotional triggers.

The healthy people in the recovery program was going to help me and nurture me in to exchanging unhealthy habits in to healthy habits, in my work time, in my want time, and in my family time.

By writing down my needs, writing down my wants, and writing down my goals I was going to extend myself in so many ways.

At the recovery meetings I was going to expose more and more of myself through my therapies and to able to articulate my feelings and emotions in healthy ways.

My fear of being honest would reduce, I would trust more, I would come out of myself even more.

The recovery program was going to help me heal my hurt inner child.

The addictions and obsessions were a form of escaping in my fears, the addictions and obsessions were a symptom that I was emotionally vulnerable.

One of my addictions was to drink, that was because I could not cope emotionally.

When I went to the addictions and obsessions were a way of me escaping in my fears from people life and situations I could not cope with emotionally.

Each time I went to gambling was a form of self abuse, working for days weeks months and giving all my money to a complete stranger.

Did I not value myself. Did I think I had no value.

I thought I needed to drink to over come my fears and be able to mix with other people.

The highs of my compulsive gambling were very heightened due to anticipation excitement the thought of risk taking fear and adrenaline.

Guilt is self inflicted pain due to the fact I went against my own conscience and against spiritual values.

I could not love other people until I loved myself.

I could not respect other people until I respected myself.

Please keep going to meetings, you will benefit from it in so many ways.

Love and peace to every one.

Dave L

AKA Dave of Beckenham