Gambled for a bit in my student days did not lose much £200
Never a problem until two years ago when i got a parking ticket, opened an online account and won on the horse's.
A few 0 balance transfers and £20000 later
Partner does not know, im thinking a homeowner loan, pay off £15000 debt and rent the house. It will be a joint application but if i don't get approved its game over. If i do its my only chance? Partner has good credit i have been refused a payday loan recently, what's my chances?
Also we are meant to be trying for a baby. ... i love her a lot but MESSY
Feel really low don't sleep much
Has anyone got of debt and turned it round.?
I know how you feel....I just got engaged and a new house and have spent £4000 of my fiance's money that was supposed to be for the wedding. Now I'm not even sure we will get married or even stay together. I can't say I have ever got out of my debts by getting a loan as all my loans have driven me to gamble. The only think I know is I should have opened up to my partner and now it may be too late. In my particular case all my partner has ever wanted is honesty and all I have ever given is lies and secrets....it's so simple when I look at it like that but when u are gambling the truth seems like a labrinth with no way out.
really hope you can find the strength to stop!
Is it fair to ask her to do that without you telling her about the debt? Gambling issues thrive on secrecy & it's always best to be open & honest. If you're trying to start a family at the moment she deserves to know the truth.
Hello,
My husband is a CG, now in recovery but he "hid" the addiction for many years. How? By lying to me, by aggressive denials, by hiding bank statements. The usual story. Except that this sort of behaviour is not usual, not in non-abusive relationships.
He betrayed my trust in him. And by stealing their savings, ditto the children's. Amongst our rocky blessings is that he didn't lose the family home for us. I would have had a lot more respect for him if he'd told me but he left our son to find out about the empty bank account the hard way.
Already in trouble, you are heading the wrong way. It's time to stop before it gets any worse. Don't start applying for home loans that she doesn't know about, forging her signature or any such like. Instead, go to a GA meeting. Today. And tell her. She needs to know. And you need her help, if she'll give it.
Ultimately, though, it's your call.
Wish you well,
CW
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