LEAD BY EXAMPLE

I think theres many on here that do exactly that. 

I've only been on a few days and the advice I've had has been amazing. 

Dave - are you actually a real person, or some kind of automated bot?...

...which has somehow malfunctioned and now spouts the GA gospel on a gambling addiction forum randomly and repetitively. Always out of context!

If you want to do missionary work, try to engage with what’s being said! Or you just seem a bit mad.

Louis

i second this, was a bit afraid to say at the risk of causing uproar, but perhaps copying and pasting random GA quotes (also readily available online) isn't what people want to hear. I had it on my thread and to be honest i didn't read beyond the first line as its the same in every other thread. Not engaging, and of little to no help once read for the first time. Its not personal advice, its not individual response, and it becomes very boring.

to the OP, there are people who offer help on here daily and have certainly helped me so very much a sense of giving back (bdog, K2, ALN, to name a few).

Can we talk to your wife please Dave :)) 

Posted by: cardhue

Dave - are you actually a real person, or some kind of automated bot?...

...which has somehow malfunctioned and now spouts the GA gospel on a gambling addiction forum randomly and repetitively. Always out of context!

If you want to do missionary work, try to engage with what’s being said! Or you just seem a bit mad.

Louis

????

Brilliant - Dave I'm assuming even you read this and had a little chuckle to yourself right? ?

To be honest, I don't think people are so much threatened by your recovery, perhaps more that you may feel a little bit threatened by peoples responses?

I remember when I read my first post - it was so brilliantly insightful for me.

Since then I feel the gravitas of what you write has gradually diminished - mainly due to the generic format which you seem to follow more and more these days:

First part - empathy based on experience and understanding - relevant to the topic or previous post - always great stuff

Second part - subjective response based on what youre reading - used to be insightful but lately it's become a bit of a cut and paste exercise so in turn loses its subjectivity and context

Third part - GA preaching. Again, cut and paste... Context completely out the window

I am a massive advocate of GA and a stalwart member, however I am also mindful that some people may be averse to the idea of such an intense and all-encumbasing treatment program - for some Gamcare is pitched at the right level of support for them and for it to continue being effective for those people we all need to be aware and mindful that our vested interests in other recovery formats may not have an appropriate place in these people's diaries.

moreover you'll never do it justice by just cutting and pasting the best passages from the program, so why bother - if anything you're only serving to trivialise the program and turn people off it by doing this - it's power and true force is in the experiential experience, surely this is only bit worth mentioning and none of the other stuff?

We each have a social responsibility to

te m P e r what we say on here, especially in each others diary and newcomers... Dave think about it - if someone has just done a bucketload of money and are in bits - they are completely powerless to the addiction and just don't know where to turn right now, they really don't want to be hearing about their inner child and how it needs healing. They need practical advice to get through each day and stay afloat until they are back on their feet again and they have more strength. At that point I'm sure you're advice would go down well... It did for me - but only at that point though.

Overwhelming day 1 people with deep and meaningful personal insights will only serve to trivialise their understanding of the addiction and trivialise their understanding of the function of this platform. Surely it's about pitching your advice and responses according to the recipients current situation and perceived level of understanding re the addiction?

Having said all this, you can write whatever the heck you want on your own diaries of course! I'm just concerned about people just entering the forum and being scared off by 'too much too soon'

I still enjoy your entries but am struggling to get to the end these days... Come on Dave, need you back on your A game mate! ?

There you go Dave, that was a much better post - I felt like you were talking to me rather than talking at me ???

Take care mate ?