Moving forward

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Phil72
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When I first stopped gambling for a few weeks I did feel this sense of euphoria that I had stopped but then something else kicked in.

Not a sense of depression but realisations and I hope what I'm about to post is helpful:

Manegability: Are you/I setting realistic goals? e.g. "I'm never going to bet again in my life".

Goals: What do you hope to achieve by stopping gambling?

Honesty: Do you think it would help your recovery to tell nearest and dearest? Obviously a personal decision.

All of the above is what I still think about but have incorporated into my definition of recovery.

Best wishes, Phil.

 
Posted : 12th August 2017 7:23 pm
(@mixer)
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Hi Phil

As someone who lives with the torment of continued relapses, your thoughts really ring true with me. With manageability, what drives me are short-term goals. I wish I could say: I'm never going to bet again in my life, experience tells me that, despite being an excellent aspiration, its going to be very, very, difficult to achieve. So realistic goals are a must.

And again, those goals have got to be associated with a reward. As you say, what's the acheivement, be it tangible or otherwise.

And the third one. Have I been honest with the extent of my recent gambling with my loved ones? No. Would it help to tell them right now? No, it would be incendary. A delicate one, as you infer when you say it's "... obviously a personal decision."

Helpful words Phil, thank you.

 
Posted : 12th August 2017 8:46 pm
Phil72
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Thank you so much for your feedback Mixer.

 
Posted : 12th August 2017 9:32 pm
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 Aum
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Thanks for your post on.my diary Phil , really impressed with your progress , showing it can be done .

Take care , best wishes ...... stephen

 
Posted : 20th August 2017 6:08 am
(@Anonymous)
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Great Advice as always Phil.

I ask myself similar questions frequently which helps with manageability.

Conradnose

 
Posted : 22nd August 2017 6:41 pm
Sharon41
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Wise words Phil, being realistic is deforestation key for me, just make it through the day GF then do it again tomorrow 🙂

 
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