Need to talk payday soon

Nurse Lou Lou you are precious 

A one off gem unique

Healing others daily

Tending to the sick

A caring angel here on earth 

Human flesh and blood

Deserving love and kindness

Should be treated really good

Joined now by an invisible thread 

To your gamcare friends

Who plead with you DON'T GAMBLE

For we all know where that ends

Hi, I'm new here as well...I'm trying to quit gambling, I had the same problem like you. A few days ago I got my salary, I have nothing now, why? Because I wanted to have a little 'extra'. So please try to stay home or go somewhere else to relax. 

Hi loulou,

I can honestly say that signing up to gamstop has been an absolute game changer for me. The endless cycle of self exclusion / time outs followed by signing up to the never ending list of new online casinos had happened for far too long. I don't know if online gambling is your usual method but can say that if you do gamble online gamstop is by far the most effective tool I have found.

I signed up for the five year period - a part of me really didn't want to do it but having been nearly four months since I can honestly say it is the best thing I could have done and has saved me a lot of headache not having that constant itch.

All the best. 

S

Hi Lou,

Forgive me for not knowing your personal circimstances.

Is it possible for someone to take control of finances?

Is it possible to phone your bank and ask them not to authorise any ganbling related transactions and / or put a freeze on your account.

Just some initial thoughts.

Best x

Hi thanks for responding..I have blocks in place however the type of gambling I've now taken up does not have blocks as it's not a known company either bank wont be able to block it ..I'm not allowed at work at present due to health so I'm terrified because I love my job to bits I have a meeting next week but constantly anxious about it..i just want to get back on track and be at work then it be easier to focus on goal :'(

Feel like I'm constantly refreshing my bank even though I know I dont get paid till about 10

Don’t do it, go to bed, read a book, read posts on here about destroyed lives.  

Hi loulou

You need the strongest of measures so you dont worry about the word payday.

You have to reach out for all the help you can get and yes that does involve being honest with people close to you. A really good way is someone monitoring you so you are on a sandwich allowance.

With modern banking technology money can be transferred to you fast but only in limited amounts to monitor you. You will take pride in providing receipts.

Its nothing to do with treating you like a baby or making your life awkward. Compared with a gambling addiction living like that is a huge improvement which gives your mind time to adjust and heal.

Im just saying that when I stopped gambling I built a rainy day fund so I became even less bothered about payday. Thats the way it heads when you stop gambling and get control of your life.

You cant do this with your willpower alone. Gambling is not the answer to whatever happens in your life. We use it as a stress or escape drug. It becomes a temporary comfort blanket which actually destroys us just like other hard drugs...for it is a drug addiction above all else. Some people comfort eat or buy a hundred pairs of shoes...its all a cry for the meaning in life but gambling is particularly destructive

Whatever stage we are at on our lives gambling is not the answer to the issues we all have from time to time. Its not the answer to worry and anxiety the answers are within you and thats the part you need to deal with for a better life.

Your aim is a serenity in a born again moment to live your life under control. There is no shame in being open and honest about this addiction

Best wishes from everyone on the forum

Stay strong please loulou

Best

It's like two records. One is full of noise and c**P. The other one is calm and peaceful. Calm en peaceful only works when you have decided that you need to do something else than thinking about your money and where it is going to come from. It's like a tick that does not easily let go but if you know how it works you will also know that P*****g away more cash down the casino drain will not solve the problem, in fact, it will make it worse. So all you need to do now is decide to change the record. 

Sounds too easy? Of course, it's not but it is a path forward and you can ask yourself how the current road is working for you? If the answer is not very good then try again with a different method preferably the one mentioned.above.

Best

C

Look at it this way your a gambler spend all your wages you won’t win because your an addict so maybe u might find your self up for the night u won’t be able to walk away u will want more and loose everything in the process and come the weekend you will have sod all excep that sick wrenching feeling in ur belly .. keep your wages don’t spend a penny on gambling then u win you’ll be up ... just don’t gamble for today and when u wake up tomorrow say I just won’t gamble for today do that every day then in 278 days you’ll be the same as me and a lot better off financially.. goodluck x