Out of control..

Hi there. This seems to be a pattern in growing addiction I find that I really think that I am missing out on great opportunities to make a profit and become something of an expert in gambling and risky financial strategies 

The painful reality is that we fool ourselves along with the programmes that are built to extract our very hard earned money once you realise that it’s us against this business because that is what it’s all about then you can start to look at your personal predicament objectively 

keep switched on use a written journal also daily exercise with breathing techniques a bit of volunteering and chatting to family and friends along with all the usual income direct debits and control get money away to a safe place. Best

Posted by: @startingagain87

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So I didn't believe I had a problem before.. even when I joined this site a year or so ago, I typed at the time how things were problematic, but I think deep down I had things under control. 

I didn't.

 

I went away telling myself I didn't have a problem.

 

Now.. I don't trust myself to have money in the bank. I had debt and I've just had to pay a big chunk off on payday because if I keep the money, I know I'll gamble it. I was telling myself the wins I had were worth the losses and that I could keep going thanks to they. Now I've just spent my week's money and feel skint. I'm also worried about where the next bet will come from, because it is every day now. Thankfully I've got petrol in the car and food in the cupboard. And, to be fair my debts are being paid and I have a little bit tucked away.. but my finances have definitely taken a battering. I've lost thousands this year. Over ten grand in the last couple of years. I know that's not a huge amount to some, but to me as a single parent it is a big chunk of money. 

 

Anyway.. I'm realising this is actually something that needs addressing urgently. And when it is addressed, I'll be financially healthy.. If I didn't gamble for a couple of months my lifestyle for me and my family would be fantastic. Instead I'm always saying we can't afford this or that. It has to change. It must. 

 

I do have a gambling problem.

And this time I'm not just saying it.  I need to stop before it destroys me. 

The fact you realise you have problem is a good starting point. I too spent a very long period denying I had a problem and that I could somehow "tame" my behaviour...It wasn't the case. 

Have you considered gambling blocks? It certainly helped me stop. I didn't take up Gamblers Anonymous but have heard positives that have come from it. 

I did take talking therapy to discuss my addiction and that really did help for me. 

Wish you the best. Seriously the fact you've realised its a problem is a really big step. 

Hey, 

Does anyone know? Partner? Family? 

I use to do exactly this, moaned at my husband when he spent money, use to always say we couldn’t afford to go here or there, or do this or that, and in the meantime I was throwing away thousands of pounds. 

Open up, talk about it. Admitting you have a problem is the biggest achievement! Put things in place so you cannot have full access to money? My husband now has control of the finances and it’s the best thing we did! 

Take care x

Posted by: @startingagain87

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So I didn't believe I had a problem before.. even when I joined this site a year or so ago, I typed at the time how things were problematic, but I think deep down I had things under control. 

I didn't.

 

I went away telling myself I didn't have a problem.

 

Now.. I don't trust myself to have money in the bank. I had debt and I've just had to pay a big chunk off on payday because if I keep the money, I know I'll gamble it. I was telling myself the wins I had were worth the losses and that I could keep going thanks to they. Now I've just spent my week's money and feel skint. I'm also worried about where the next bet will come from, because it is every day now. Thankfully I've got petrol in the car and food in the cupboard. And, to be fair my debts are being paid and I have a little bit tucked away.. but my finances have definitely taken a battering. I've lost thousands this year. Over ten grand in the last couple of years. I know that's not a huge amount to some, but to me as a single parent it is a big chunk of money. 

 

Anyway.. I'm realising this is actually something that needs addressing urgently. And when it is addressed, I'll be financially healthy.. If I didn't gamble for a couple of months my lifestyle for me and my family would be fantastic. Instead I'm always saying we can't afford this or that. It has to change. It must. 

 

I do have a gambling problem.

And this time I'm not just saying it.  I need to stop before it destroys me. 

You have come to a significant realization that you have a gambling problem. You've recognized the financial and emotional toll it has taken on your life. You are determined to address this issue urgently to regain control over your finances and improve your lifestyle for yourself and your family. You plan to seek professional help, join support groups, work on a financial plan, and stay accountable to overcome your gambling addiction. You understand that recovery is a process and are committed to making positive changes in your life.