My husband has recently admitted to having a gambling problem, the situation is pretty bad but he’s not very good at talking.
He’s taken the online questionnaire & scored high in all 4 areas and agreed to set some online goals for himself.
I don’t feel this is enough though, what are your thoughts please?
Hi
The addiction for me was just the symptoms that I could not heal my pains.
The addiction was a form of self abuse escape and isolation.
The deeper I got in to my addictions and obsessions the longer it would be for me to heal the hurt inner child in me.
My telling lies was fear based issues.
The rooms of recovery was a place where I would get to understand how unhealthy I was.
Hi
Sadly I had in time turned out to be my own worst enemy.
In time I would talk about money lost and in time I would be able to give therapies talking about how emotionally vulnerable I was.
By me giving therapies I would start to be able to articulate and understand what my feelings and emotions were trully.
As my therapies grew my fears reduced and my trust started to grow.
The money was just the fuel for my addiction.
I could not trusted with having money on my person.
The recovery program and with other like minded people would help me understand what my pains were, and in time how to heal my pains.
The recovery program and with other like minded people would help me understand what my fears were, and in time how to reduce my fears.
The recovery program and with other like minded people would help me understand what my frustrations were, and in time how to reduce my frustrations.
As I got more honest and opened up more I was living in less fears or rejection or abandonment.
I got to understand that I was not an evil bad stupid person I was simply emotionally vulnerable.
I got to understand what my emotional triggers were.
Pains I could not heal.
Fears I could not face or reduce.
Frustrations due to my unreasonable expectations of people life and situation.
Loneliness fear of emotional intimacy.
And boredom.
I could only get healthy once I was able to admit to my self how unhealthy I was.
There comes a time when I got honest with my self.
Only once I put time and effort in my recovery then I would be able to abstain from unhealthy habits and the healing process could start.
Dave L
AKA Dave of Beckenham
If he's addicted the measures he has in place isn't enough. He needs to block and restrict his accounts and register with GamStop. I would seek professional help with national gambling helpline before it gets worse. Gambling is supposed to be a once in a while thing you enjoy and have a healthy view of. The reason we are all here on this forum is because us problem gamblers have an unhealthy relationship with it and exhibit destructive behaviour.
Go to a physical GA meeting that's the best start for him aswell as the above!Â
I started with goals on here and made it a religious part of my day to come on in the morning and fill out the review for the day, it’s helped me put my mind set for the day. Also blocking all sites with your internet provider and mobile carrier is a great way to stop. This might not help you but it helped myself and I’ve not thought or cared about gambling for over two weeks nowÂ
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