stay well dave you are a great supporter of us all on here.
Michael
Hey dude, I think you've taken the right step... sometimes it is about putting yourself first, nobody will begrudge you being selfish in fact from all the support you've given to others then you deserve at the least that time to get yourself together. When I gave up I had in my head that once I was recovered that I would help others but I don't think it's quite as easy as that as it can be a case of opening up old scars that in some cases you'd like to forget. The driving factor for me was I didn't like the person I had become, if I have any weakness for gambling I just think about how much I struggled, sacrifices that didn't need to be made... it's a case of retrieving control, I guess it's about imagining life as a story, this is just one chapter of many more tales for you to tell but one chapter has to end for a new chapter to begin. It's not the end of mistakes but it's the beginning to try
Hey Dave,
Just dropping by to say hi, hope all is good in ur world and you moving on confident steps ahead. You always been great supporter and I will be thankful for you sound advices and encouragement in my journey.
Stay safe, keep strong and hope to hear from you soon.
Take a good care of yourself
Sandra x
Hi Dave,
I've been off radar for a while and I've just read my diary where you so kindly asked how I was doing. I was relegated from the Xmas challenge. Rightly so cos I was gambling again. I thought I was ready to stop but obviously not - unfortunately blew another 10k. It seems that there are different levels of rock bottom! I found out that you can always fall further.
Fortunately, I had a bit of a breakdown one sunday afternoon in front of my partner. It all came out in a ball of tears! She never suspected! She was so supportive and got onto Gamcare and I arranged councelling and she took control of the finances. That was back in November and I haven't gambled since!!
It is a bit of a paradox that all the gambling in those last few months (much wilder than ever before) was to try to win back my loses so she would never find out. I never realised that her finding out would be the 'cure' that I needed. A very expensive way to discover this don't you think?
I really hope you are doing well and check back and read this. I'd just like to thank-you for all your support. I hope you are as good at supporting and advising yourself as you are with others.
Good luck mate!!
Dave, don't know if you read this thread hope you are keeping well and life is giving you all you want.
Michael
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