Choose life

Yes, you are true. But it's not easy.

I have in mind that i have to recover this amount and say to me "i need to recover them".

But how, when?

Thanks Ginus and Little miss lost

I am thankful for your replies, my head is a little frantic rigth now and i dont know how to deal with things, im fresh off gamlbing and my head is spinning. What damage i have created. I can see how serious this addiciton is now. I can feel that it is suffocating me and it will kill me. I dont want it in my life anymore. I am starting my new day one soon and i am going to give it my all. Really i feel like im fighting for my life. Thanks for the support, i guess all i can do is start over.

Lost

How you can manage your daily life now?

I mean. I have the same problem as i love football. I see television and watching a match there's the suggestion that said to my mind "bet bet!".

It is impossible to eliminate right now.

How can you superate this moment? Someone could help me?

Hi Half time,

what do yuou mean with "how about giving the live sport a swerve and sticking to the highlights?"

SOrry, i'm italian and i understand few english. COuld you please explain me more easily? You mean to stop watch television?

But the problem is not television, the problem is that i lost more than 11K euros in 2 years. and i would like to recover this amount. How can i do?

Please explain with simple words. I'm devasted from mentally point of view.

Thank you.

Genius you cant recover money through gambling, i lost £6000 in few minutes. You need to forget your losses and move on. You will save money again if you don't gamble. Take some strong steps, close all your betting accounts and ban yourself from physical casinos. There is only one solution just stop gambling.

hi Lost23, may I strongly suggest Gordon Moody ? this is rehab / potentially residential rehab for serious problem gamblers. The website link is here : https://www.gordonmoody.org.uk/ they offer intensive support which is what I think you need. It may be too much right now for you to try to quit on your own, so get help, they offer intensive help. It does get easier believe me. Please get in touch with them before things get too much again. take care

Hi Lost!

Don't let this set back discourage you. I relapse over and over but what changes is each time you come back here and continue to fight it it shows you are stronger than the addiction you have fight in you and when you can pick yourself up from the darkest of depressions to come on here when you really just can't face it speaks volumes about your strength. You've fallen off hey ho you'll pick yourself back up you'll try again and again and again until one day the grip will loosen and it will!! Go for a walk. Clear your head and remind yourself This won't be the end of the world and you can try again. xxx

Thanks for the comments.

The days have been really really hard emotionally. I cant believe how much pain i feel at the moment. it makes me want to run to those machines. I have to say no. I cant go back again

Well done for staying strong Lost23. Post #19 on your thread from Half-Life is a good one. Stopping is very difficult - try to make it as easy as you can for yourself.

Remember that if you are struggling GamCare offer free counselling in person and for support there is a helpline or netline. People are here to help you.

Stay strong, keep posting, best wishes.

Excellent advice coming in here for you mate.

The bottom line is though pal you have to be tough now, do as your post title suggests- lift your head up shoulders back and stop feeling sorry for yourself. CHOOSE LIFE.

Put all your blocks in place and self exclude from everywhere, get help from gamcare, do all the practical things that you have to do. But also get tough with this now! You're not a bad person- you just have an addiction. I am the same and struggle every single day, but believe me when i say this it ALL gets easier, but you have to be patient and give it time. Surround yourself with positive things, get a new hobby. (All things that are helping me). However the main thing i did was sort my head out give myself a serious talk in a mirror one on one. "This will not be the end of me" im too good for that! im not gunna keep playing a victim.

Take each calender day as a challenge! at the end of the day you either win the day or lose the day.

Fight or flight time my friend.

Best of luck. Never give up

Hey thanks so much for your comments. Its been i think 22 days now since i gambled after last relapse. I am just starting to feel a little bit of lightness back in my life

Hello again. I think its 25 days gamble free now, i like the counter on tihs so that i can tell. I am not quite sure how i am feeling but i can say that i am feeling better than when i first came here although i got off to a bit of a rocky start. Thats a bit of an understatement, the amount of times relapsing trying to stop i cant even count but i am trying to just look at this as my fresh start, me beginning of recvery. The years ive struggled and relapse im putting down really to me still gambling as the damage was so great with each relapse i cant say the between periods were recovery. I am hoping this time it is. I want to be gamble free. It does not bother me saying i cant gamble. I am tryng to think now when i think that of all the things i can do, not the one thing i cant. Im still tyring to figure out how to reach the chat thing here i cant find the tab for it?

Hi Lost23,

here is a link to info about opening times and how to access the Chatroom:

http://www.gamcare.org.uk/chatroom

The next one will be tomorrow (Saturday) at 8PM.

All the best,

Forum Admin

Hi there. Its 31 days since ive gambled. I am really happy about not gamblign, having some trouble with the emotions but hey it is way better than what happens when i gamble, and the state i am in after relapse. It has taken some time to start to be able to even think clearer.. Im gamble free today

Lost

Hi its now 43 days since i gambled. I am scared i will relapse. I am terrified actually. Maybe that is a good thing? i do have some urges today but trying to hang in there and remember how bad it feels when its day 1 and the destruction it causes